Would you encourage your DC to follow your career path?

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Inspired by a conversation I had with my colleague. I work in a social care role and there seems to be loads of mums/daughter, sisters etc who work in similar roles together. I would not discourage my DD from the work I do, but I would tell her to choose her employer wisely as there are so many bad ones out there.

Hmmm I would totally discourage!!

From my job, not yours!!!

Yes, I love my job. Pays not great but opportunity to earn much more in future. It's fun, fulfilling.

I'd encourage them to. Not to follow my career path as such because that has been a mess and disappointing, but the actual field of work I would definitely encourage.

Neither of DC’s have shown any interest in following my and DH’s career. DH, a doctor, is very pleased.

Not my actual job but owning her own business like I do, absolutely.

I was a corporate drone for decades earning what someone else thought I was entitled to.

I left to start my own business and it’s been unimaginably successful and I’m now a self made millionaire. There is no cap on what I can earn.

As a teacher no way. Very fulfilling but too much of everything else.

I made it very clear to both DC from a young age I didn't want them to follow my career. I was an academic over achiever and it made me miserable. They are if anything underachievers without any career plan but they are much happier and comfortable in their own skin than I was at their age, and that's all I ever wanted for them.

Good God, no!

I'm a teacher.

I'm making an effort not to go either way. Because I don't know what will suit then and for all I know, another job could be better or worse. The only thing I would really advise is that the reality of the role suits their temperament.

Most definitely not. I may have to disinherit her if she does.

Yes if it interested them.

Strongly encouraging dd to avoid following me into teaching and to follow her grandfather into being a solicitor.

No way. Absolutely not. I work in a nursery, the hours are shit the pay is shit, the treatment is shit. The kids are nice (mostly) but often the parents treat you like shit.
I need a new job.

Depends on whether wfh sticks (City job) - without it the work/life balance is too bad but with it that is manageable and you have the intellectual stimulation & the $$$

Absolutely not. I'm a civil servant and I've told both of my DC to never work for the government. Thankfully they've listened!

NHs so no. I work for they nhs in a clinical role. Highly skilled and qualified. Lots of letters after my name. DH works in recruitment. He’s about to hire what is basically a glorified admin woman in a publicly funded company on the same salary as me. Why did I bother?

Notnin a month of sundays. Nurse manager. Pay is brutal for the responsibility and workload I have. Having said that I love my job but I wouldnt want it for my children. There are much easier ways to earn a living

I'm a doctor. I love my job, but would only encourage them if they had a passion for it, not just if they liked the idea.

It's a bloody long and hard slog at times, I'm only just in a job where I don't move placement every 4-6 months and I graduated 11 years ago. Worth it for me though

No way. I'm a nurse, I actually love my job but the pay is rubbish for the responsibility. I can't see it ever improving, I probably give an extra 5 hours a week of my time free to the NHS. I think they could earn far more doing something far easier. I would hate for them to be working in my field should something like covid happen again. I would want them safe working from home.

Solicitor. No. It was hard enough to get into when I graduated in 2001. Even worse now.

Plus DS seems to be better at maths and sciences than me.

Dentist - hell no. I get told I am hated at least 5 times a day and it grates.

Absolutely not. I work in Local Government. I had some misguided desire to make a difference to the lives of the people in my community. Turns out they all hate us. Absolutely everything is our fault. I am abused on a daily basis via email and social media. I’ve been told I should be sacked twice this week already. It’s utterly soul destroying

Like most others on this thread, I am a nurse in the NHS, so (if there even is a NHS when DC are adults) although I love my job, no. DD2 says she is going to be a nurse and work where I do, but she is only 5 so there is time for her to change her mind.

Teaching in general, no. Teaching/Working at my (small SEMH/SEN school, yes. When it works, it works so well but if not teaching is awful.