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To think it's mean

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Mummarainbowbear219 · 04/08/2020 21:55

Hi my dear sister & is dp have lived in her house 6 or 7 years & have a little boy who is is 5. They've made there house very homely & added their own style to every room in the house except for my dear nephews room. They've kept it exactly the how they decorated it when they moved in. I just think it's a bit mean that they haven't made any effort to make his room his own.
I've got a DC who's one & me & dh decorated it when I was 7 months pregnant. What do you guys think?

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SeasonFinale · 04/08/2020 21:57

I think they are probably waiting until he is old enough to chose something that will last until he is a teenager rather than wasting money on something he will grow out of.

NextName2020 · 04/08/2020 23:19

My 5 year old wants his room, shared with his younger brother, to be 100% dark purple. It is plain walls with his artwork stuck all over at the moment.

I’m definitely not painting the whole room as he suggested! He mentioned it in an offhand comment and I don’t think is that interested especially as we barely spend any time in the bedroom anyway. As above, if he gets older and wants something particular that’s fine, although I’d encourage temporary things like wall stickers over actual painting the walls any day. We don’t redecorate for fun, I would see redoing rooms frequently as a right pain!

Pipandmum · 04/08/2020 23:22

Have you asked her about it? By what you say I'm imagining a nice homely house then the son is in a bare white box. Or is it that it's just not your idea of what ot should be like?

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Mummarainbowbear219 · 05/08/2020 07:37

It's not a plain white box but it's not decorated for him, it has wallpaper on the walls but to their taste. It's just like it's a spare room that he's been plonked in & not his room if you get what I mean? Im not saying they should put new wallpaper on the walls but there's nothing wrong with painting the walls blue or something.

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RedNun · 05/08/2020 07:41

Yes, this is a hugely controversial decision and a sign of neglect — you need to intervene immediately. Hmm

MrBloomsLeftVeg · 05/08/2020 07:44

What??
Why is that necessary?

RandomTree · 05/08/2020 07:47

Meh. I couldn't get too worked up about this to be honest. Assuming there's nothing else you're worried about?

Molly500 · 05/08/2020 07:50

I think you should report them to SS.
Or call 111.
Or be 'furious '

Or maybe just mind your own business because as long as your nephew is loved and care for ot really doesnt matter what the wallpaper in his room looks like.

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Mummarainbowbear219 · 05/08/2020 07:51

Our DCs room in a minty colour with winnie the pooh pictures on the walls, so at least when DC taste change, all we have to do is take the pictures down but it's DC room & decorated that way

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Finfintytint · 05/08/2020 07:55

Winnie the Pooh is very controversial in China so I don’t think you should comment.

painandmorepain · 05/08/2020 07:55

I would never think to consider the wall colours/decor but would judge if he didnt have books/toys/crafts or activities and exercise. Do you have concerns about any other aspects of his upbringing?

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Mummarainbowbear219 · 05/08/2020 08:04

Lol 😂

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Mummarainbowbear219 · 05/08/2020 08:07

😂 Wow

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ScrapThatThen · 05/08/2020 08:14

Do they show love and care for him in other ways? Does he get choice over some things he likes?

HerNameWasEliza · 05/08/2020 08:16

Not mean, not an issue at all. You need to let go of this as this is entirely your stuff. I guess you and your sister have a very tense relationship and you, on some level, enjoy criticising her? I don't mean that meanly but if things are tense then your motivations can become confused a little.

JustCallMeGriffin · 05/08/2020 08:16

Neither of my girls have decorated rooms...so far I've raised a teenager and a 7 year old who appear to be perfectly normal and happy.

However their rooms are distinctly theirs because their stuff is in them.

I'd be more concerned about a child's bedroom being like a monks cell with only a bed and curtains than a bedroom that doesn't have bespoke pictures and paint to the child's preference.

scrivette · 05/08/2020 08:17

All three DC have had a plain mint green walls as their first room. They have their own toys in their so it's never been an issue.

wildcherries · 05/08/2020 08:20

Not your business.

SmileyClare · 05/08/2020 09:07

You could ask your sister if you could buy a Power Rangers (insert favourite of 5 year-old) duvet cover and curtains for your nephew? He's probably not at all bothered about his walls. I think his toys, books and teddies make the room his own.
At that age, they change their mind weekly on what is their absolute favourite thing anyway! One minute Paw Patrol is everything, the next it's for "babies" Grin

FinnyStory · 05/08/2020 09:12

Hahahaha. My poor deprived children. I painted over the wallpaper that was already there so my boys didn't have pink flowery bedrooms as a quick fix when we moved in 16 years ago. Their rooms haven't been decorated since. They've been offered the opportunity many times but they're OK as they are, cant be bothered with clearing the rooms to decorate and they really couldn't care less about "making it their own". Why would you press adult concerns on a 6yo?

MrsSpookyM · 05/08/2020 09:14

Wow, what a non issue.

SeasonFinale · 05/08/2020 22:58

Why do they need to paint it blue? Because he is a boy?

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