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Emily920 · 04/08/2020 20:03

Hi All, I am a mum of a 2 year old beautiful girl. She is amazing in every single way and i am so grateful for her every single day, almost to the point that I sometimes cry out of pure thankfulness. This probably sounds so lovely, and it is, however my life is extremely limited because of my separation anxiety with her. I work full time, I leave the house at 8am and not back until 6pm. Her dad is a stay at home parent and within those hours I am fine because I’m so busy at work I hardly have the time to think at all. I come home and I’m lucky enough that she doesn’t go to bed until 9pm so I spend all evening with her. The biggest worry of mine is that I can’t seem to have a life outside work or my daughter. The though of getting my hair done gives me anxiety because I just want to be with her every minute of every day that I’m not at work, the thought of a friend inviting me out for a drink causes me stress because I want to go but I just can’t bring myself to do it and leave her. I Haven’t been out at all since she has been here, I would happily turn down work dos because I find no joy in them even though as a manager, I should be there. Me and her dad have not been for a meal just us two or had an evening out since she arrived. I feel guilty at the thought of even doing something without her outside work. It’s becoming overwhelming and the more it goes on, the worse I’m getting. I look at other mums on Facebook who exercise or go to the pub with friends and I just wonder how??? A) how do they have the time B) how do they have the energy? I’m just so 100 with my daughter that people think I’m obsessive because I’m always playing with her, always making sure she is stimulated and happy. I’m never further than a metre away from her. Is this normal? If not, what can I do to help with my own anxiety’s? Thank you all x

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MrsJonesAndMe · 04/08/2020 20:59

No I don't think that's normal and I was a SAHM with a breastfed clingy baby who I didn't leave till 8 months.

I think you need to look at CBT or just take the plunge and go for a walk on your own and build up from there.

labyrinthloafer · 04/08/2020 21:29

Hi, I think the issue is you want to but don't feel you should? Some people don't want to so it doesn't come up.

Before moving to CBT I would start small and see if you can build up.

Go to the post box or something tomorrow. Good luck!

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