Not depressed-depressed but struggling to find joy. Anyone else?

[GrumpiestOldWoman]

I feel really flat just now, can't pinpoint a specific thing, just general fed-up-ness.

Yes. Although I feel like I am moving towards proper depressed which is... depressing.

Distraction works quite well, as well as having small treats and mini goals in the day or week. I just have to make sure they aren't all food related.
I've barely seen anyone in 5 months so I think that is the main cause for me. All my (small number) of friends have gone awol.
I keep telling myself this will pass and I will get through this, and feel properly happy again.

Have you tried Joanna Trollope OP? Middle class people falling out with one another against a backdrop of tasteful furniture and delicious sounding lunches?

I feel a bit flat most days. As a self confessed grinch I can’t believe I’m saying this but I’m channeling my looking forward to Christmas.

Whilst I’m not normally one to wish the time away hopefully

1. We will have found a way of life that allows for living with this blasted virus by December and the worries about winter will be reduced... mainly because it’ll be winter
2. I like making and putting up decorations
3. I like the build up of soap storylines towards the Christmas explosive family secret reveal/baby/uncovered affair
4. We will have found our swing as a family by then with DD in school and my husband having been working for 4 months by then
5. Drinking of snowballs and other sugary affairs
6. Presents
7. My youngest DD will be old enough to “get” Christmas by then
8. Making lots of roasts and stews and eating all the Christmas specials from Mr Kipling et al

Normally I can’t beat Christmas but I’m fully up for it and ready this year.

@SoPanny

Have you tried Joanna Trollope OP? Middle class people falling out with one another against a backdrop of tasteful furniture and delicious sounding lunches?

I feel a bit flat most days. As a self confessed grinch I can’t believe I’m saying this but I’m channeling my looking forward to Christmas.

Whilst I’m not normally one to wish the time away hopefully

1. We will have found a way of life that allows for living with this blasted virus by December and the worries about winter will be reduced... mainly because it’ll be winter
2. I like making and putting up decorations
3. I like the build up of soap storylines towards the Christmas explosive family secret reveal/baby/uncovered affair
4. We will have found our swing as a family by then with DD in school and my husband having been working for 4 months by then
5. Drinking of snowballs and other sugary affairs
6. Presents
7. My youngest DD will be old enough to “get” Christmas by then
8. Making lots of roasts and stews and eating all the Christmas specials from Mr Kipling et al

Normally I can’t beat Christmas but I’m fully up for it and ready this year.

Not tried Joanna Trollop, might have a go at that next, been wondering how to follow the Rutshire chronicles, thanks for tip.

Yes I think Christmas will be quite good this year, I've struggled to orient myself without the normal cues of summer - activities and such like, but I hope Christmas will still feel like an event and give the midwinter a turning point. That assumes I'm not completely round by that stage though, ordinarily I'd be aiming to lose some weight in anticipation of festive food but that's an unappealing prospect this year

There’s loss of us who think the same on the Anti Ds threads.

Do come and join us. We are a nice , kind welcoming bunch and yes we all feel exactly the same.

@labyrinthloafer
I kept trying to do this, a sort of 'mustn't grumble' approach, but actually it is shit, even though it is less shit for methan for many, and I felt less unhappy when I acknowledged I was understandably unhappy.

This makes sense. Of course there are other people who have it "worse" but I think it's all relative. Life is tough now for many of us. Grinding through groundhog day is wearing & depressing, & it's ok to admit to it. Keeping it all in because you personally haven't experienced a tragedy isn't helpful.
It's ok to miss your life pre-covid & it's ok to hate things as they are now.

I think that acknowledging that it's miserable is healthy.

Yes I feel really down. I'm also pregnant and feeling really unwell most of the time so that's playing a big part. We have a holiday booked for winter time that usually I would be really looking forward to and making plans and I just can't even be bothered thinking about it. It's a mixture of worrying about money (we are both self employed so if lockdown hits again we are fucked), feeling like shit, worrying about another wave over winter when I'm due and just not having the same portions of things to do. A mixture of covid and pregnancy blues, so I'm a bit concerned about my mental health. I have suffered after pregnancy before and this is not looking good.

Hello Dowser! I hang out on those threads too. They have kept a lot of us sane.

Things must be bad if even RCB isn't lifting the spirits

I've been feeling a lot like this lately too - some days I feel so blue, I just want to go back to bed and pull the covers over my head. You are definitely not alone. Two things that are really helping: Couch to 5 k (all that endorphin stuff works), planning how to redo a space in my home as a really 'nice to be in' workspace.