Connecting sleep cycles

[Trevo]

"if you feed your baby to sleep they will not learn to connect their sleep cycles and you will be up with them through the night" true or false. desperate first time mom of a 5 month old - who has tried gentle sleep training and it has not worked. My gut says she will get there, my googling thumbs say she must be weaned off feeding to sleep if I ever have to break the waking 5 times a night ( she will only feed back to sleep - have tried pausing, other settling methods). Any tales from the other side??

I honestly think it depends on the baby! My dd didn't start sleeping through the night until he was 4.5 (yep, years!) and my dd started sleeping through aged 7 months. Ds breastfed until 2 years,9 months, and dd still breastfed every few days (she will be 2 next month). Your baby is so so tiny at 5 months old, give it time. I sympathise though as I know how hard the lack of sleep is!

My ds didn't start until 4.5, not dd *

Yes, this is true in my experience. All three of mine slept progressively better from newborn to 4 months then their sleep fell apart and got worse and worse until I broke their reliance on suckling to settle. I’m in the midst of this again with my 6 month old and it’s truly hideous.

Thank you - how did you wean them off?

hope it gets better for you

If you're stressing about sleep, my best advice is to choose a book and follow its method. Otherwise you'll be reading conflicting things on the internet and getting more stressed. We used the happy sleeper and it's worked fantastically. Didn't do it til 7 months, although book says 4 or 5 is OK (can't remember which). We Co-slept off and on from about 4.5 months because her sleeping was getting worse and worse. Now she's almost 11 months and sleeping through in the cot. For now

My oldest did it herself naturally at anout 9 months - would feel nearly to sleep then roll over, settle herself and sleep for 12 hours. My youngest is nearly 20m and still wakes 2-3 times to feed - going to try night weaning her once she turns 2 as I'm having another and can't deal with 2 of them up and down all night! I would give it a little bit longer then if she's still waking lots by about 8 months she will be more likely to respond to gentle sleep training methods - they all start from 6 months at the absolute earliest. Good luck!