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Tricky bedroom situation, opinions please!

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Beebityboo · 04/08/2020 15:16

For various reasons my DD(12) and DS(9yo) are still sharing a room, which I know isn't ideal. Our youngest DD had and has behavioural/sleep issues so was in on her own in the box room but due to illness and trauma from being in hospital she sleeps in bed with me and DH every night now leaving the box room empty.
My eldest DD has asked now to stop sharing with DS, which is fine but we're pondering which would be best as we only intend to be in this house until next Spring.
Do we:
A) Move 12yo DD into the box room until we move or
B) Move the girls in together and put DS in to the box room?

Points to make are that DS hates the box room as it isn't big enough for his chunky loft bed which he loves and also that I don't forsee a time where my youngest DD sleeps in a bed without me in the near future. Also my eldest DD has aspergers and would probably benefit the most from having her own space.

Thanks in advance for any help!

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RunningFromInsanity · 04/08/2020 15:19

Ask your 12yo DD would she rather have her own space in the box room or share the larger room with younger DD (even if she sleeps in your room)

I imagine she would prefer to have her own space and chose the box room.

Stopthehop · 04/08/2020 15:20

How old is the youngest?

Nosuchluck · 04/08/2020 15:21

Would your DS and youngest daughter be able to share and your older

DD have the box room?

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 04/08/2020 15:21

Put dd1 in there. Keep dd2 in with you.

When you move in the spring, look for q 4bed.

BigChocFrenzy · 04/08/2020 15:22

Check with her about option A)
but if she agrees and it's only until you move anyway, what's the problem ?

Beebityboo · 04/08/2020 15:22

Youngest is 5 and DS wants to share with her as he hates being by himself!
My eldest wants the box room.
Hoping to find a four bed next year.

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Beebityboo · 04/08/2020 15:24

I suppose I'm just worried my eldest would really resent having to share with her sister eventually, in the event we can't find a four bed.

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BigChocFrenzy · 04/08/2020 15:24

Oh, I see
Well his wish to share seems less urgent than DD12's wish to be in a separate room and youngest DD to be with you after hospital trauma

BigChocFrenzy · 04/08/2020 15:26

Even if you can't find a 4-bed, sounds like the younger two would be able to share for a few years
and then you could move again or divide a room

Fantasisa · 04/08/2020 15:27

Move eldest into the box room for now BUT explain that it might only be 'for now' and eventually she might have to share the larger room with her DSIS.

So you don't have massive issues (you never told me, this is my room) if you can't move and later down the line have to put the girls together.

BigChocFrenzy · 04/08/2020 15:29

If your youngest needs to be with you for a few years, then you do only need 3 beds for that time.

As an Aspie myself, I recommend you prioritise your DD's wish for a separate space from her sister
and DD12 definitely shouldn't be asked to keep sharing with her brother

RB68 · 04/08/2020 15:55

I don't even know why you are asking it seems a no brainer - pop DD in box room, ostensibly younger DD in with 9yr old boy for 6 to 12 mths and hopefully longer term her own room but for now sleeping in with you

rainkeepsfallingdown · 04/08/2020 16:00

She's going through puberty. Let her have her own room.

If you can't find a 4-bed within your budget, you might have to look at adapting the living room into a bedroom.

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