Celebrating DTs' birthdays on different days

[andadietcoke]

Has anyone done this? I can't get them to agree on anything but am sympathetic to them not being able to have a party etc so prepared to pander a bit. The 'older' twin is happy to go with the day before - I'd booked the day off anyway...

If they are happy to do so then it seems like a good plan, which works for them both.

We usually do family celebration on their actual birthday and then separate birthday parties with friends a week apart. In the current situation I wouldn't have any problem having separate family celebrations if that's what they want. Having to share with someone that wants something different from you is quite hard, I imagine.

I wondered about this too, if it’s what they want then I would go for it. Must be hard always sharing your birthday.

Reckon the second birthday will be boring, you'll all be over it. Could you do mini birthdays in other parts of the year?

@Timestoodstilll yes, that's exactly what I'd suggest normally but in the absence of parties we're a bit stuck with 'favourite restaurants' which of course are different!

@andadietcoke If you can afford, I'm just go for it. I can imagine mine being quite exciting at the prospect of having their 'own' birthday and I would definitely go over the top about it, just for the fun of it. And if money's a bit tight, maybe explain to them they need to pick something slightly cheaper than usual if they want separate celebrations.

@OhioOhioOhio

Reckon the second birthday will be boring, you'll all be over it. Could you do mini birthdays in other parts of the year?

Lots of families have kids with birthdays quite close, so you really not bother with any but the first? I'm sure their parents and siblings can bother to care about both of them

Op this sounds like a great idea, and it'll be nice to have a day about them

Seems like a good idea I might worry a bit about one of them getting the actual day while the other gets a 'random' day. Could you do a small joint celebration on the day and then individual ones on the weekends either side? It's also fair enough that it shouldn't have to cost any more, so everything might be a bit more modest (are they old enough to understand this?)

The one who has the random day (the day before) is happy. They've agreed today that they'll open presents on their respective days and to be honest they just seem super excited that they get a day that's just theirs and all about them. We've always had two cakes etc, but have normally had their party before the end of school in July, and then a family day on their actual birthday so this year is a bit different anyway.

In terms of cost we're saving a lot by not having a proper party. They had a half birthday thing because they only get a half birthday every four years and each invited their own friend so at least we had that this year.

I think I'm going to enjoy this. I love celebrating their individuality so this feels like a great opportunity. I do feel like this might be the start of a tradition!!

It sounds like it will be great! I am sure if I were your children I would be thrilled (even if secretly) to have my own day. I also love starting new family traditions. Have fun!

What is a half birthday?

No, it's not something we would do because they more or less have the exact same friends who it wouldn't be fair to occupy an entire weekend on because my sons cannot come to agreement. If we ever find ourselves in this situation I believe the rule will be figure something out or do it at home.

Seems a bit weird. My sister and I share a birthday (although we are not twins, we are two years apart) and we always celebrated on the same day and had a joint party. It's a lot more straight forward.

We used to do a barbecue every year, each invited a specific number of joint friends and separate friends. Seemed to work. They're 24 this year and will be spending their first ever birthday apart!

Seems odd. My sisters never had seperate parties, they seemed to enjoy celebrating together. I have 2 children whose birthdays are days of each other so do two celebrate things end up wth a lot of birthday cake that wk. And two lots of parties in same wk can be a bit much.