I have a 6 year old girl and a 4 year old boy. I am 35 years old so last chance to have a third to conplete my family. I have such a strong intense feeling of having a third. My bidys telling me im not done. Both me and partner want one but should we as.....
A) we live in a 3 bed, so whatever sex the third would be would share with one of our children, im not sure how they would feel about sharing after having own room and space is it cruel? Putting a newborn into either an 9 year old girl by the time or 7 year old boy when they dinally have there independance. There freinds wouldentwant to come over and stay with a baby in there room, how does everyone else manage or do they just simply have a 4 bed or a close age gap.
B) am i too old
C) i have proplapse as my last baby big at 10,3lb will it destroy my tiny body! Who knows?
D) were not rich, we would struggle with three, but i feel thats better than spoling the two i have. I would rather struggle and have love with the busy caotic household thats what i crave.
E) i feel i will spend rest of lif regreating it if i dont. You regreat the children you dont have but you will never regreat the children you have.
F) i feel wasted as ive been told im an incredible mum and have all the love to give and my two are so clever and kind and brilliant well behaved children.
G) my other two are so close will they resent another young baby after they have grown up together? My mum thinks they will but why?
H) as there so close we do grown up choldren things together, would they hate it if i go back to doing baby things, there would be a big age gap, it would then be hard to do things/activitys that suit all three.
Any help/advise as this is a big decision for us, as it dosent just affect me and partber it affects my children and there happiness comes first. Is there anything im not thinking about? Am i being selfish. I feel its my last oportunity with my age and my partner being 37. Its now or never.