Is everyone's relationship really struggling since lockdown?

[sukiginger]

Or is it just me?

I love DP, he's loving and funny and kind. But I'm so fucking unhappy since lockdown started. Life is just work, housework, sleep, drudgery, repeat. It feels like all the things that made life worthwhile are gone, like lovely meals and evenings out, holidays, travelling. We just pass each other by going to work with none of the rewards to make it worthwhile.

I'm just hating life right now.

Oh I'm the same. We feel a bit disconnected. We love travel and have lost several trips, not seen friends for ages or family who love further afield. Shopping is a joyless experience. It's like the whole fun layer has been removed from life.

We did eat out for the first time this evening which was really nice. Maybe slowly reintroduce some of the things you're missing.

It's so hard isn't it

We did 3 child’s free nights in a UK hotel with the help of grandparents. It was so lovely and social distancing felt ok too. I think it has helped but I know what you mean.

Sorry to hear you're feeling that way. Life is quite tough in many ways at the moment. We've certainly had some moments between the stress of the pandemic, trying to keep 2 jobs going and home schooling, but we're generally doing OK.

Can you try and reconnect a bit? A series on the telly, going for a walk, a picnic with champagne or a meal in an outdoor space in a restaurant?

I hear you OP it’s a very tough time and all the extra stress is bound to affect our relationships. I feel like our entire family is disconnecting the DD’s spend a lot of time on their own in their own space as do we. I’m ashamed to say I haven’t even got the energy to rectify it no one wants to do anything I suggest they are over the “walk” etc.
They do meet friends and we have been out for a meal but it’s like we are all flat.
Anyway sorry to go on about me but wanted you to know it’s not just you.maybe with your DH try to book a little break just a couple of nights somewhere to have that change of scenery and talk to him I’m sure he feels the same.

We're both homebodies and haven't had any issues. DH's enjoying wfh and more time with the kids. I'm enjoying having another adult to talk to at lunch time.

But then I was on maternity leave before this anyway so apart from a few groups our day to day hasn't changed so much. We also live quite rurally and have enjoyed taking advantage of the new businesses which can now deliver in our area.

Sorry you're having a hard time though. Things seem to be reopening now so you should take some time to reconnect and explore these options.