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Im feeling a bit let down after the end of one of my longest friendships - just wondering if anyone else has experienced similar.
Basically I had someone who I considered my best friend for most of my life. We weren’t as close in the last few years, just because of work, kids, different lives etc, but we still chatted a lot and met up fairly regularly.
Then last year I went through something very traumatic (two second trimester miscarriages in six months) and almost overnight she just disappeared from my life, even when I told her I was struggling and asked for more support.
I tried to speak to her again about it this week - My last attempt to the to possibly save the friendship, and instead of apologising or even being nice, she just gaslighted me. Made me feel like I was being ridiculous. Lots of “I’m sorry you feel that way”, but never acknowledging the pain I’ve been through. Trying to make out like we just drifted apart, when in reality it was almost like an overnight dramatic shift, where suddenly she made me feel like being around me or speaking to me made her uncomfortable.
So now I’m feeling a bit sad, like now I have a friendship to grieve as well as my babies. I feel silly that I tried to save a friendship and made myself look so bitter, when she made it clear she doesn’t care about me.
Has anyone else gone through such a dramatic end to a long term friendship? Please share your stories to make me feel a bit less alone!