Being more positive and changing my life accountability thread.. anyone in!

[happiness1234]

I've felt quite miserable for a while
lockdown has been hard wfh in demanding job and largely ignoring my dc
I've put on a stone and feel crap
I'm drinking too much
My house is a mess
My career is not progressing as I would like despite all the hard work
I'm not organised enough
I compare myself too much to others and feel envious of them
I'm generally feeling a bit deflated
I've been trying for another dc and that is not happening sadly
I thought I would start a thread to help me try and change and be more positive in the hope that positive things will follow!

This is what I'm going to do:-

Start a diet
Do more exercise
Spend more time focussing on dc and dh
Be nicer and more grateful
Read some positive self help books re career
Spend more time outdoors
Spend more time on me and self care
Buy some new clothes once I've lost weight
Get a style analysis
Invest more time in friendships and making new friends
Go camping or glamping
De clutter
Clean more do TOMM
Stop focusing on ttc and getting my hopes up and dashed
Try to worry less
Drink less

Hoping that if I take some steps re above life will be better generally by the end of the year

Anyone want to join?

I don't want to put a dampener on your positivity but that's quite a lot all at one time.

I thought I was being ambitious just aiming to drink more water. Even that one tiny thing hasn't been that easy. So, add one more thing to your to do list - 'don't be so hard on myself'.

That's too much. Just start with the most important. 30mins quality time with each kid a day. And 30mins for yourself to go for a walk or run.

@happiness1234

I've felt quite miserable for a while
lockdown has been hard wfh in demanding job and largely ignoring my dc ... I agree when you say “Stop focusing on ttc” sounds like displacement, in that the upheaval of a baby will enable you to avoid the challenge of successfully managing children and work.

Sounds like you have the basis of a lovely life - work/income, seemingly healthy children and the capacity to regain your own health in this time of Covid.

Sounds like there is so much right and good about your life today. It’s ok to take your foot off the gas and enjoy the rewards of your hard work to date.

Yes lots to be grateful for .. need to focus on that

Maybe it is a big list perhaps I should try a few a week!

I think you can reduced your list to :

1. Give myself time
2. Be kind to myself
3. Focus on the three things in my day that achieve 1 and 2.

Heaven knows that being a working mother is a monumental task. It is enough. 💐💐💐

Wanders off to take own advice