Regretting a move

[2ManySweets]

We moved from London to Scotland about 18 months ago.

We’ve had several absolutely shit things happen in that time (redundancy literally as we moved being the main one) and there’s part of me wonders if we did the right thing.

We moved for

• bigger house with a garden
• known education system that isn’t competitive (one catchment area is for one school, eldest starts P1 in 3 weeks)
• less traffic
• nearer time friends and family (though we have hardly seen them even pre Covid)

I have a feeling my brain is getting messed with the world as it is but can someone indulge me about moving away, realising you actually had certain things within reach before and then moved back and lived happily ever after?

TIA

I love where I live in normal times but this years been awful and I feel like running away. Fed up of the neighbours, work, lack of social life. Give it time and I’m sure things will start to feel better.

I did London to Scotland several years ago and found it really difficult - spend the first couple of years longing to move back but for one reason or another am still here.

I do like it much more now - even appreciate the weather. Discovered lots of beautiful places and acquired some good friends. I thought I would never ‘get over’ London but I did stop pining for it, and couldn’t imagine moving back there now. However still think I will move back South one day (when kids are done with school), so it’s difficult sometimes feeling somewhat transient here.

What is it that you’re missing and/or what don’t you like about where you are?

Well, any place we live is just another set of compromises. It’s just about working out the best overall scenario.

I also wouldn’t underestimate the stress of moving that then got compounded by the redundancy. It’s dufficult to feel happy about much when you’ve got so much weight on your shoulders.