Lost Ones Through Lockdown

[Dowser]

I thought it would be nice to have a space On mnet where you can you write a tribute to your lost loved one.

You can mourn, grieve, get mad, angry or rant about it all or
Just let it pour out.

I worked as a bereavement counsellor with Cruse for 10 years a few decades ago and I understand the importance of letting your feelings out, whatever they are.

No one is here to judge.

It’s been a really tough time for everyone, but not having the chance to be with a loved one, hug and hold them for one last time must be the worst of all.

So, if you wish, tell it how it is for as long as you need and if I can help I will.

If you just need a listening ear, I’m here and I’m sure others will be along as well.

I think it’s dreadful how families have been left high and dry and my heart goes out to each and everyone of you.

Lovely idea. I lost my beloved dad 9 weeks ago suddenly. I miss him so much.
It just doesn’t feel real and I keep thinking he’s going to come back. Life’s so hard without him. We’d talk everyday and see each other a few times a week. I just wish I could talk to him.

I’m sorry to those going through the same xx

The closer you’ve been to someone the harder it is to let them go.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
One thing I found really useful was to write down some of the lovely things you loved about your dad.
Little quirks, the kind things he did...what was his profession?
How did he make you laugh?
Did he have any unusual hobbies?
Really celebrate the life of the man Who gave you life and in turn won your constant love and affection .

To be honest it hurts too much to think about those things so I try not too. I just cry when I think of him like that

That’s fine Penny.
Your grief is still very raw andi can understand it feeling like rubbing salt into a wound.
Just remember that when you cry tears are the healing for the hurt that’s already happened.
Grief is a process and there’s no prizes for who does it best. You can expect to go through a whole range of emotions. You can be having a good day and then something someone said , or a favourite meal, a place, a memory , a perfume or aftershave and there you are sobbing your heart out.

My very first client had just bought his wife a skirt and his wife died very suddenly after only a short time together. He had gone into m and s to get something from the food hall and here’s the same skirt hanging on the rack and he just turned round and left in tears.

I can remember feeling quite devastated myself at the time when he told me and I wondered how I could help him.
I had a lovely supervisor and she said to me , it’s fine, just let him talk and cry it out, that’s what needs to happen.

Sometimes just the simple things in life are needed. Someone who understands what you are going through and though they can’t fix it for you just knowing that there is a safe space for you when you need it just helps you to keep putting one foot in front of the other.