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DH made redundant

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user5068482 · 26/07/2020 20:47

Having abit of a pity party that I know I need to snap out of and I don't want it to show to DH so I suppose I'm just writing it here to get my feelings out.
DH is being made redundant. It's crap but he is a much more positive person than me so often comes across as if he is handling things better. I'm being to think he is bottling it all up though. Today he snapped at me I could hear it in his voice. He very rarely snaps at me we don't argue much at all. He is normally so laid back.
I think what has thrown him is this morning he got a rejection from a job. The job was less pay than his current job. Their feedback is basically he is overqualified. It's just crap. Yes he would have been taking a step down but he explained in the interview. One we could afford the pay cut and two that he saw this job as an excellent opportunity to work for the company (it is genuinely a company he would love to work for). That he doesn't have any issues in hopefully in afew years down the line working his way back up the ladder. They obviously think he didn't mean this. I can tell he is just exhausted from the job application process and this is the second time he has been told his is overqualified. He has now decided he may have to leave off his qualification/work experience. I just can't believe all his hard work over the years that he is having to hide.
He is suppose to hear from another job tomorrow I just can't stand it all.
Anyway it feels better writing it down at least I can't let it show as I need to look positive for him.

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mbosnz · 26/07/2020 20:49

Your poor DH. And poor you. It's hard for both of you, but he is very fortunate about how empathetic and compassionate you are being about how it is for him.

I hope very much for both of you that he gets a positive response soon.

Kia kaha (keep strong).

Mydogisthebestest · 26/07/2020 20:50

That sounds really tough for you both. X

user5068482 · 26/07/2020 20:52

Thank you

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Tappering · 26/07/2020 20:59

I get you. It's shit.

The only advice I can give you is be kind to each other. Stress and nerves will manifest themselves in the most petty and unimportant things - but the undercurrent of being out of work will be there.

Things are starting to get busier again as shops and offices start to open back up. Fingers crossed he finds something soon.

Thisyearcandoone · 26/07/2020 21:08

I hear ya. Can't really offer you any support, but didn't want to read and run.
Look after your self x

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