Problems with OH

[nameandgamechanger]

Name change for obvious reasons.
I'm due to give birth soon but me and OH seem to be arguing alot. Over stupid things! I don't think he understands how i feel, he doesn't think he needs to prepare for what is about to happen in our lives and is so laid back he is horizontal.
He seems to show minimal interest in baby things but was overly happy today when he managed to get back to the gym which annoyed me as i feel his priorities are wrong! He never shows emotion either (apart from the gym thing 👀) so i am constantly guessing how he feels and how he is going to react. I feel so alone in our relationship, i feel like i've done the majority of things myself and now i worry what it will be like when we have our child. We have been together a long time and i love him i just really don't like him right now! Surely i'm not the only one who has felt this alone? I can't help but feel so down at a time where i should probably feel very excited and happy.

Hi lovely!
Don’t panic, lots of people are having issues with their relationship right now. It’s a strange world we live in currently.

Have you both been spending a lot of time at home together due to furlough for example?
It could be that your OH is worried about the future but doesn’t want to show it and stress you out. He may be excited about the gym opening as it means he can have some time to himself and a bit of HIM time.

A lot of men are lazy and if you’ve been doing all the planning and organising, he probably thinks you enjoy it and has left you to it.

I would sit down with him and tell him how you feel and ask him specifically what you want him to do and tell him about any worries and concerns.

I don’t mean to generalise but a lot of men don’t pick up on things like us ladies do and need to have things spelled out to them!

Sit down, talk and I’m sure you’ll feel a lot better about your future.

Good luck!

@Carriecotz Wow, that's actually a really good way of looking at things.. and from both sides.

Thanks a lot for your view and for being kind about it 😍 we'll have a chat later to see if we can sort it x

Don't underestimate the impact your pregnancy hormones is having on your brain, either. Baby things are, objectively, pretty boring - changing tables and cots and prams are just expensive bits of furniture to most people, it's the pregnancy that makes you think they're interesting. Also, apart from the physical stuff, there's no way to really "prepare" for a baby - what is it you want him to be doing!?

Namenadgamechanger, did you manage to have a chat with your OH? I hope you feel a bit better today x