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WWYD? In this work situation?

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crosser62 · 23/07/2020 11:15

I had a lovely job.
One colleague was awful, sneaky bullying behaviour, not just me but many many other staff members complained on numerous occasions, refused to work with this individual.
I made it clear to management and for the following 2 years, avoided this staff member completely, no contact. All good.
Then they got a temporary promotion. This meant I would be forced into their company and would be managed by them.
This I could not stomach so I got another job, handed in my notice, citing this person as the main contributing factor for my leaving.

This person has surfaced in my new environment.
No discussion with her ever took place regarding her bullying I just quietly faded and avoided.

Just got an email from her saying she has been made aware of my issues with her, she had no idea blah blah blah, wants to discuss and offer “an olive branch”.

I want absolutely no contact or discussion with her. End of.

Wwyd?

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DibDibDibduh · 23/07/2020 11:19

Contact HR, work emails are for work not this. She should go through HR too if she wants to address anything

crosser62 · 23/07/2020 11:24

If she persists with this then HR is the way it will go.

I do not want any interaction with her at all. She made my life a misery.

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Medievalist · 23/07/2020 11:24

Well if you're adamant you want nothing more to do with her then I'd just respond saying thank you for the offer but you don't want to rake over the past. I'd add that you hope you can both maintain a professional relationship going forward.

DibDibDibduh · 23/07/2020 11:29

If you don't want to go to HR yet, screen shot and ignore it
I wouldn't enter into any form of communication, it will just muddy the water

crosser62 · 23/07/2020 11:30

Yes that sounds good and to the point.
I will of course remain professional as I would be her superior if she ever came to work as a permanent fixture.
I couldn’t bring myself to be unkind or rude, it’s just not me, but I know I would find it very difficult to work with her from a mh perspective.
But I also know that I could not/would not tolerate her making any one of my current colleagues lives miserable like she did mine.
I would be documenting my ass off, copying in HR to absolutely very thing and she would meet her match with me.

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Deathraystare · 23/07/2020 12:26

This person has surfaced in my new environment.
No discussion with her ever took place regarding her bullying I just quietly faded and avoided.

Christ what a nightmare! Why do these people get promotion? I suppose they just move them on rather than going all through the bother of sacking them. Hope things turn out ok

Shizzlestix · 23/07/2020 14:37

Will she not be permanent? If you are to be her superior if she comes permanently, then you will need a professional rapprochement, possibly, but probably pointless if you will be managing her. Unless she starts trying to undermine you when she arrives, I would ignore if she’s not going to be permanent.

Venicelover · 23/07/2020 14:38

My guess is she is covering herself in advance, as she knows you would be her superior if she became permanent there. I would respond as above and leave it at that. She will get the message.

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