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“There are a lot of things I don’t like about you, you know.”

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ThankYouFansAndAirConditioners · 22/07/2020 22:37

Lying in bed with new BF of just a few months, feeling totally loved up, and this is what he comes out with!

I was so shocked, I barely reacted at the time.

What should I say now? What should I do?

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MacduffsMuff · 22/07/2020 22:38

Ah come on. You know what you need to do.

ThisIsNotARealAvo · 22/07/2020 22:38

You should say "I'm not putting up with this shit. Bye".

waitingforadulthood · 22/07/2020 22:39

He's negging you. In bed , happy , and putting you in your guard, classic negging. Get out. Find another, better bedmate

ButteryPuffin · 22/07/2020 22:39

'I've been thinking about what you said about there being a lot of things you don't like about me. Maybe we're just not compatible then. Do we need to call it a day?'

Give him a chance to row back, but don't ask what's wrong with you, promise to change etc.

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ThankYouFansAndAirConditioners · 22/07/2020 22:41

@MacduffsMuff

Ah come on. You know what you need to do.
Just to be clear, I’m definitely finished with him! No questions asked. I’m just so stunned still, I’m not sure exactly how to handle it.
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Heartofstrings · 22/07/2020 22:42

Why would someone actually say something so dumb?!

SardineOil · 22/07/2020 22:43

You simply say "there's the door, off you fuck!"

growinggreyer · 22/07/2020 22:44

That's a shame, cos there's only two things I don't like about you - everything you say and everything you do. Bye!

Stompythedinosaur · 22/07/2020 23:13

I believe the appropriate response is "Fuck off, Dickhead."

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ThankYouFansAndAirConditioners · 22/07/2020 23:21

I also have no idea why someone would say something so fucking stupid.

Perhaps just ghosting him is the way to go? We had fairly normal interactions for the rest of the morning, he didn’t say anything else that was off. I’m still reeling tbh. I don’t feel like I really want to talk to him again. I feel horribly stung.

It’s not even whether or not there might be things about me that he doesn’t like (surely we all have this with others to a greater or lesser degree), it’s that he would say it!

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SarahJinx · 22/07/2020 23:23

You say ‘yeah? How funny, I was just laying here thinking that you’re actually embarrassingly crap in bed, as well as total bore off and wondering how I could get out of this! You’ve done me a proper favour! Aw shall I get you your coat??

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Deathraystare · 23/07/2020 12:37

"You mean I won't take your shit?"

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ThankYouFansAndAirConditioners · 23/07/2020 13:27

I’ve now blocked him. I just can’t be bothered having a discussion about it. I’m sure it would turn into some argument about how I’m too sensitive, or we can’t expect people to like everything about us, or that it’s true so what’s the problem, or some such rubbish. I’m just going to leave it. I thought he was really nice until now, but I can’t be doing with that sort of nonsense.

I’m gutted, and terribly hurt Sad

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TheNoodlesIncident · 23/07/2020 15:50

I wouldn't waste the energy being hurt by this prick bloke, I fully expect he'll say something like that to every partner he has.

Very much as "it's not you, it's him". Now you can see what he's like under the veneer, and it wasn't good enough for you anyway. You're well rid, don't take it to heart Flowers

sueelleker · 23/07/2020 16:04

'That's a coincidence, I feel the same way about you'.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/07/2020 16:08

I know you're hurt, op, and I'm sorry, but he's actually done you a massive favour. You now know what kind of man he really is. Be grateful you didn't waste any more time on him.

Nordicwannabe · 24/07/2020 05:16

Really sorry you've had such a hurtful experience. He has learned dysfunctional relationship models, which will harm him and his partners all his life. Thankfully, you have a strong 'shark cage' and you have got out, saving yourself more pain.

rebecca102 · 24/07/2020 05:20

Ghost him. Wtf even is that. What a stupid thing to say.

VettiyaIruken · 24/07/2020 05:25

I'm not surprised you're hurt. That was such a dreadful thing to say. I'm glad you've taken a zero tolerance approach. There's simply no excuse for what he said.

WinterAndRoughWeather · 24/07/2020 05:27

I agree that ghosting was the best move, well done OP.

Don’t give him the satisfaction of getting angry or dignifying his cruelty with any kind of reaction.

snitzelvoncrumb · 24/07/2020 05:35

Please don't be upset, you are so lucky you didn't waste too much time on him. Please be proud of yourself for ending it so quickly rather than seeing how it goes.

FixItUpChappie · 24/07/2020 05:44

Huh? He wasn't kidding or teasing? How bizarre....what did you each say next or did it just die a death right there? Confused

Frownette · 24/07/2020 05:47

Don't know what to make of that...it's hardly pillow talk, is it?

Glad you decided to leave him and definitely don't nibble at the bait and ask him to elaborate. He did that when you were vulnerable.

user1498572889 · 24/07/2020 06:04

That was the start of the convo as to all the things that are wrong with you in his eyes and why you should change. Run away very fast.

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