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Do you believe in past lives? Having memories that aren't my own.

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Goodgriefimtired · 22/07/2020 20:34

Just something I've been thinking about, because it happened again recently, and I wondered if there was an explanation for it, or if it has happened to anyone else.

Since I've been quite young, I've had these flashes of vivid memory, that simply aren't mine.

When I was in my early teens, I heard a piece of classical music - I can't remember what it was now- and all of a sudden I had this memory of being in a dark hall, listening to music, and seeing the woman in front of me lean over and gesture to a friend, she was wearing a ring with a large stone, which caught the lamplight and flashed on her hand.

Another one is monkey puzzle trees. Anytime I see a monkey puzzle tree, especially if it's standing a little off on its own, I get a picture of standing at a bay window, looking out on to a small, close cut old lawn - you know the type you get in old vicarage - listening to some rooks cawing in a monkey puzzle tree, and feeling really peaceful and contented.

Also, the first Christmas my children were all old enough to talk/know what was going on and get properly excited, I went Christmas shopping, sneaked in home late, feeling really proud of myself for getting organised, and I could hear them chattering in the kitchen. The air had that crisp, frosty smell, and out of nowhere, I thought "I remember this. How lovely to be able to do this again"

Another one- sitting in an old fashioned room, furnished in dark wood and forest green, feeling utterly smothered and eating stale cake. I actually visited a small NT property last year, there was a late Victorian sitting room decorated in such a way and it immediately made me think of the memory

There's been a few other such memories and feelings. It's strange, because they feel as real as the memories I know are mine, but they simply couldn't be. Mostly the memories feel like those of an adult, even though I wasn't always a adult when I had the memory.

I have a fairly good memory in general, my earliest memory is from I was 18 months old and has been confirmed by my mum. I can remember lots of details rather than feelings - that's actually partly why these memories seem different, I couldn't tell you many details, but the feeling is the same. So the sight of a monkey puzzle tree will trigger the feeling of being contented I had in that memory, however if I remember some things that did actually happen to me, eg my Grandad's funereal, I won't remember feeling sad (I was) but I remember the skirt I was wearing

I'm an atheist, and not generally woo, but this has happened frequently enough that it does make me wonder

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/07/2020 21:53

Well one women actually met her children that she’d had in a previous life. It’s very interesting. Google Jenny Cockell. I think that’s her name I check again and amend if needed.
I do actually believe in reincarnation but I don’t believe it in a sense that you’ve lived before. Upon death the energy of a person can never be destroyed. Therefore I believe that energy some how goes into the mind of a developing embryo and he or she picks up that persons memories of their previous life.

FatherBrownsBicycle · 22/07/2020 21:54

No I don’t believe in past lives. I think it’s more likely false memory, a couple of thoughts jumbled up, with something seen in a long forgotten film, along with a feeling from a completely different time.

www.healthline.com/health/false-memory#why-we-have-them

www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-false-memory-2795193

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/07/2020 21:56

I can’t believe I’d forgotten this but my dd used to always talk about her other mum Peggy and baby Bunty and her dad John.
She doesn’t remember anything about it now, though.

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DullDullWeather · 22/07/2020 22:54

My youngest DS once told me that he had been a soldier and he was killed and that it is cold in (on?) the ground He was about 6.
Only time he ever mentioned that but he did once tell me that he chose me to be his Mum . There were other Mums, he said, and he chose me.

He remembers none of this and is 16 now .

SidesteppinTheRona · 23/07/2020 03:29

No, I don’t believe in past lives. False memories are very much a real thing.
I’ve had quite a few of these and always assume that I’ve remembered a “scene” from a dream.

HandbagDog · 23/07/2020 06:10

What @FatherBrownsBicycle said.

transformandriseup · 23/07/2020 06:41

I am still not completely sold about past lives but from when I was very young until 30 I could see visions of a life growing up in Germany from late 1910s to the end of WW2 (so 30 years). I have never even been there but could see everything very clearly.

Pelleas · 23/07/2020 06:44

This documentary might interest you, OP:

KatherineParr4 · 23/07/2020 06:45

Yes I do believe in past lives. Perhaps you should try going to a past life regression therapist ? It might be interesting to explore.

KatherineParr4 · 23/07/2020 06:46

www.regressionassociation.com/therapists

FourPlasticRings · 23/07/2020 07:07

I don't know, OP. Memories are odd things. Just the other day I remembered going for a picnic in the park for DD's second birthday really clearly, but then realised in actuality it'd been rained off and we'd had it at home instead. It was a false memory which I must've created when planning it. I've also had ones that must've been from dreams or stories.

Goodgriefimtired · 23/07/2020 07:51

Yes, the likelihood is it's false memory.

Such an odd feeling though! Brains are weird

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DrDetriment · 23/07/2020 10:42

Not sure the rooks in the tree is a real memory. Our monkey puzzle was always too spiky for any bird to sit in!

Cherrybakewellard · 23/07/2020 10:44

I've been recorded being regressed. The detail is bizarre.

icelollycraving · 23/07/2020 10:48

How interesting! I believe in reincarnation.

TinyMetalBirds · 23/07/2020 10:48

Could it be books you read and internalised? I sometimes get confused over whether something happened to me or if I read it in a book, especially as I was a voracious reader as a child and often tried to recreate bits of books I liked, so like Milly Molly Mandy I went blackberrying and on an expedition etc. There’ s a scene in My Naughty Little Sister where they eat a banana sitting on the steps and I always picture my back step.
I ask because the monkey puzzle tree reminds me of Charlotte So times.

TinyMetalBirds · 23/07/2020 10:49

I meant to write Charlotte Sometimes!

EatsShootsAndRuns · 23/07/2020 10:52

@Cherrybakewellard

I've been recorded being regressed. The detail is bizarre.
Wow. This is something I consider doing. I'm interested to see if there's anything in my ”past” to explain my current phobias.
Cherrybakewellard · 23/07/2020 11:54

People may call me crazy but I had a dream in which I met someone from a past life.
He told me he was searching for a broach which was very specific and he told me where to find it.
It was on land my PIL own so I told my mother in law expecting her to think I was insane (like she doesn't already).
A few days later my mother in law had a man turn up on her doorstep (they own an estate) who has found a broach while metal detecting on her land. We both nearly passed out when it was exactly as I had described.
I realise people will think that is insane. I think it's insane. I can't explain it any other way.

IveSeenThings · 23/07/2020 12:27

I think stories we've read, and that other people have told us become entwined in our memories and then we can't distinguish what happened to us or to others.
DH tells a story about something that happened to me, but he thinks it happened to him. I have pointed out to him it couldn't possibly have been him (due to where each of us lived at the time) but he thinks it's his memory not a story he's heard. (We've been together over 25 years, so a lot of shared history).

Cherrybakewellard · 23/07/2020 22:05

My son often talks about his 'old family'. He stated on about them as soon as he could talk. He had strangely accurate details about the part of the world and their cuisine etc.

LuluBellaBlue · 23/07/2020 22:10

I believe in it and have explored many past life’s through various techniques - meditation, having sessions with a spirit being and taking plant medicines such as Ayahuasca and Iboga.

There is so much we don’t know as human beings there’s just no way anyone could possibly say for certain that such things don’t exist. Any scientist will openly admit we as a race of beings actually know very little

SavageNun · 24/07/2020 10:09

There is so much we don’t know as human beings there’s just no way anyone could possibly say for certain that such things don’t exist. Any scientist will openly admit we as a race of beings actually know very little

Any scientist will also base his/her knowledge solely on credible, testable evidence, and that you can't test for a negative. We can't prove the earth isn't orbited by the Marie Celeste piloted by Shergar, but based on what we do know about the solar system, it's vanishingly unlikely.

taking plant medicines such as Ayahuasca and Iboga

Both of these are well-known hallucinogenics.

AmberShadesofGold · 24/07/2020 10:16

Mostly not, but a couple of things give me pause...

a) apparently I used to talk frequently about my "other mummy" when I was very small. I described a farm house and fencing and insisted my current mum knew her and got angry with her when she said she didn't. At the time it spooked my real mum so she discouraged me from talking more - but has often since said she wishes she'd ben more encouraging.

b) I was once hypnotised and asked to recall a past life and gave such a detailed description of a life as a fairly ordinary Edwardian gentleman. I remember everything I said but - more than that - I remember very strong emotions associated with the people in that life. For example, I had an older son I said I loved very much and was very proud of. The feeling of love as I was saying it felt so intense and strong, to me. Really overwhelming.

I honestly don't know the truth of it all...

Meruem · 24/07/2020 10:54

Only time he ever mentioned that but he did once tell me that he chose me to be his Mum . There were other Mums, he said, and he chose me

My DS said exactly this from the time he could talk until he was about 4. Spooky!