Anyone else worn out?

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I've just had enough now. Need a place to rant and blow off steam, I think DP is fed up of me now!

I'm just so tired of the everyday monotony of life at the moment. Me and DP have both still been working throughout lockdown, him full time and me part time, and after yet another day of cleaning, cooking, having my lunch stolen by ganet 2 year old, abandoning my 3rd half drank coffee because I haven't had a chance to just sit and drink it, picking up the same toys over and over, I want to say enough!

I would very much like a month long holiday on a quiet beach, with no children or other people, where I have absolutely no housework or responsibilities and can read lots of books.

DP is lovely and tells me to stop doing the housework and he will do it when he gets in from work, however a) that isn't fair on him as he already cooks dinner most nights and b) I can't relax amongst the mess and chaos. So I continue to drive myself crazy by doing the same things over and over again, knowing really that there's no point as 5 minutes later it'll be just as messy as it was before.

Anyone else want to join me in the pissed off parent club?

I've been in the same position OP. I'd go with what your DH says. Don't bother trying to clear up while the kids are still awake. Wait until they're in bed and have a quick blitz round.

Try living with a teen😭. I’m fit to be tied.

Yep. Uncertainty is wiping me out. Didnt work for the first part of lockdown but got notice that my job wasnt continuing in April so since then it's been a constant hustle, putting myself in danger to make sure bills are paid. Such is the nature of fixed term contracts but usually not against a backdrop of a pandemic.

Escaping to the in laws in a couple of weeks and I cant wait to relax.

Allmyfavouritepeople I'm really sorry about your job, I really should count my blessings that we've not been affected financially, I couldn't imagine dealing with that stress. I hope you find something quickly.

Theemoji you mean it doesn't get better when they're older?! I've been hoping that by the time they're teens they'll just want to sleep all day, stay in their rooms and grunt when they require food! Don't ruin this blissful dream for me!

Fitted I know that is the sensible thing to do, I just can't relax sitting with the mess all around me. My everyday housework routine isn't too much (i have a schedule) but its the everyday jobs like dishes, washing, tidying up the mess the toddler makes (today her best trick was tipping an entire loaf of bread all over the kitchen floor) means I'm constantly running round doing something. I start one job, then see something else that needs to be done so do that, then I spot another job to do, and the original job gets forgotten temporarily.

I'm actually a very selfish person in that I love being alone, not doing anything productive and my dream day would be watching Netflix and stuffing my face by myself this is not compatible with parental life unfortunately!

I hear you! It's like groundhog day. I'm sick of the site of the living room, I despair at picking up toys over and over and I want to fetch myself a snack without having to fetch everyone a snack! I'm 40 weeks pregnant and everyone keeps messing up my nest!!

Yes I'm permanently weary. Kids to nursery, home, work all day, nursery pick up, then it's pretty much a chaotic cacophony until they finally go to sleep and I inevitably make myself do some dishes around midnight when I peel myself off the sofa. Then it's 6am, one or other has been up multiple times or wet or something and I have to peel myself out of bed to start again. But...grateful to be working and have nursery available.

Yes to being alone, watching telly while stuffing onesface. That is the stuff of dreams.

Me too i can feel myself burning out. Since lockdown started I've worked at least 9 hour shifts Mon-Fri with only 2 days off, whilst homeschooling an 8 and 10 year old, dh had 4 weeks of furlough but was more of a hindrance. I miss my commute for an hour to myself and i need my cancelled holiday so badly!

It’s like living with a glowering thunderstorm all the time.

She was looking at something above her head today. But l didn’t know if she was looking or rolling her eyes, such as l’ve been conditioned.

"Theemoji you mean it doesn't get better when they're older?! I've been hoping that by the time they're teens they'll just want to sleep all day, stay in their rooms and grunt when they require food! Don't ruin this blissful dream for me!"

Yes, some work like that. Atm mine does. But it's not always for the better.
I had his chicken on the counter and rice on the table + 3 empty plates also on the counter. He grunts for food, I grunt that it's all there.
He looks at the table and it's not there (served and waiting for him), so storms back to his room and tells me to call him when the dinner is ready. I lost it.
after 10pm (bedtime) he becomes this lovely, chatty, considerate, thoughtful and very intelligent young man. But between waking up and then he is an arrogant little.....
But this too shall pass :)
And I'm not too good in handling it either. My job is stressful. Not that it's much. FT, but the actual work is about 3 days worth of pointless meetings and me/my team will be made redundant in a few weeks. We don't fit into the new CEO's vision. So for weeks now I have to come up with stuff to make it look like I'm working, when in reality it's toss that I'm doing.
I actually like being overworked compared to this shit. I have a weekly call w/my boss and for 2 months now the standing joke is "btw, I still have a job". I know I should be grateful, and on some level I am, but this indecision and mock-work is eating me up.

Oh yes. I’ve been furloughed since the end of April after a month trying to wfh with my breastfed 2 year old climbing all over me. My skin is worse than when I was a teenager, my hair’s coming out, my bones ache, I feel constantly on edge. Having blood tests to see if anything is low.

I fucking hate this. I want to go back to work.