DH came home today, sat in front of me and said he’s not doing well. He is struggling at work, has no energy, panic attacks, heart palpitations and generally feeling very, very low. He hasn’t been himself recently but we are renovating our house which obviously came to a complete halt in March and we are struggling to get on with it now. He’s worked throughout lockdown as a key worker (not frontline) and life has been a bit tough in the house with the work we are doing, furlough for me and the kids being home. He has been awful to me a few times this year. I mean below the belt awful - not violent but verbal, drinking, not pulling his weight and I did seriously consider leaving when the country got back up and running. He wouldnt talk to me, was very closed and argumentative but I assumed rough patch and all of the above. We’ve been together 20 years.
He’s wanting an emergency appointment with the GP tomorrow. Said he can’t go on like this. I asked if he’s wanting signed off or to go to work tomorrow but he broke down and said he can’t focus on work. He really can’t bring himself to go. He likes his work. How do I support him. I’ve suggested writing a few things down before the dr tomorrow but what else? I can listen, hold his hand.