Chicken Pox Etiquette

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DS came out in chicken pox spots last Wednesday (the 15th), its been a mild dose and the spots are scabbing up well. DD will probably catch it from him so going on a 14 day incubation she will probably come out in spots next Wednesday (the 29th). Both children are invited to a birthday party tomorrow (the 22nd). Dr Google tells me that neither child is likely to be contagious tomorrow. Does that mean I can bring them to the party? Or should I keep them at home just in case?
We're not in UK by the way so birthday parties are allowed here, we have been in lockdown though so they haven't been to a party in months and we were really looking forward to it.

As long as he is really scabbed over and no new spots then I would go. Unless.....there is some risk to birthday childs family....e.g. early pregnancy, immunosupressed illness etc etc. Not all kids in the family get it at the same time so you could stay home and she's fine.

Thanks for that @Mumdiva99, I will ask the hostess what she thinks in case of the issues you mention, but at least I won't feel like it's a ridiculous request.

I just wouldn’t go. It’s not worth the risk.
If there’s a parent who is pregnant who goes or an immune compromised person there. It’s just not worth the risk.

if they are fully scabbed they are no longer contagious. Incubation period is 10-21 days so uou won't know for a while if your other lo has it. I would ask the host whether they will allow your kids to attend the party rather than just turn up

Personally I wouldn't, even if you check with the host, you have no way of knowing if any of the other party kids will be brought by a pregnant mother, or have an immune suprest relitive.

I would err on the side of caution and not go to the party and explain to the host why. They will understand. You don't really know for 100% certain they aren't infectious and you don't really know what other people have going on in their lives. Someone who is a SAHP already home with dc and not planning to do anything different for a few weeks may not be too bothered dealing with chicken pox. Someone who has been out of work for months because of COVID and really desperately needing to work right now may not be as able to take a week or longer off with a sick child. Others may still be recovering from illness or have a recently ill family member. Maybe just make plans with the birthday child for a meet up and celebration when you are sure everyone is well.

Thanks everyone, it may be better just to stay away then.

It isn't worth taking the risk.