Not going to be able to cope with teenage years-he’s only 12!

[savetti]

Every single thing I say is wrong, stupid.
Every response of his is irritated, bored or just bloody mean
Does anyone have any tips that actually work
Isn’t there a phase where they get in the shower? And want to be clean?

Nothing constructive to add....but you are not alone....

The grunt years. They do come out the other side.
Let him smell. Suddenly one day you won't be able to get in the bathroom because he's in there for so long and the house will stink of Lxyn.
It's the toddler years again but they're bigger.

I have to bribe my 12yr old ds to have a shower twice a week. Think he is brushing teeth twice a day,though know he sometimes wets his toothbrush and lies.
They arent a nice breed op

We are in the lynx years.

Someone bought him some smellies for Xmas, I had to bin them, made me feel physically sick

my ds is 16 now and stays in the shower for ages. They do change. Still a grump though!

You binned his toiletries?

In all seriousness, I can’t deal with being treated like he hates me.
I don’t have much of a life, so spend most time with him, there’s just the two of us.

I have a 12 year old ds. I feel your pain. Mine seems to hate me right now...I think I'm quite a nice mum

I binned the overpowering aerosols yes.
He still has regular stuff

We’ve just been singing “Never gonna give you up” and being silly.
Then he just completely turned on me when I was trying to point out that there was an episode of his show that he hadn’t seen.
Stormed out, now singing, but removed the “never” from the lines of the song
How horrible is that?
I can’t deal with these tantrums

you have my sympathies. Mine acts like he hates me too. What is it? Do dads get this as bad? (no dad round here) The only advice I have had is to get your own life and enjoy it, so you aren't too dependent on their niceness or otherwise. Not so easy in these times. You might want to join the PoT (parents of teens)/hanging on thread in Teenagers .