Trying to de stress over house selling

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It’s keeping me up at night... does anyone have tips for just chilling out? I’m eating right and not drinking/smoking. I’m just jumping awake at night and this could go on for months. How do you not stress about things at night?

Have you tried all the usual things - no phone/computer before bed, warm bath, hot drink? Pad next to the bed to write things down? It is a very stressful time - I read Jilly Cooper’s entire works when we were selling ours. I found that if I read for a few hours then I would sleep a bit. I hope it doesn’t drag on for you too long.

Thank you. I’ll try the pad to write things down! (What sort of things do you mean? Thoughts that are stressing me out?)

The writing things down is good advice, as is recognising your worries are legitimate but cannot be solved at 3am, so write them down and agree with your brain that you will sort things out tomorrow when solicitors/ surveyors/ estate agents etc can help.

For stress during day (don't do this at night!) play best, worst, most likely scenario in your head.

Eg- buyers survey comes back with big issue.

Best scenario- they love your house and will proceed with buying anyway

Worst- they pull out, you never sell your house again and you've wasted so much time and effort for nothing

Most likely- you'll need to agree a few K off the agreed price but they'll still want the house

Hope that makes sense- it helps me when I'm spiralling!

My house isn’t even under offer yet, but thanks. Eek. I hate it all so much.

Can I join you? It's not even up for sale yet, and already stressing. Since you are further down the line, how much cleaning, repainting and decluttering did you do first? And did you do all that before contacting estate agents or on their advise ?

I rented it out last year, so it was pretty empty (have now decided too empty and feeling a bit soulless.) Am kicking myself because i thought I would rent it and rent here and now GOD KNOWS how long it will take.

I'm also stressing over selling and my house isn't on the market yet. There's a find line between trying to make it look perfect and still having to look after 2 small children and having to cater for their needs. I want this all to be over!

I'm stressing about whether to buy a house. We don't need to move, but it would be nice to have more room/bigger garden. We've seen one we like, but it's such a huge financial decision I'm getting cold feet about the whole thing.
And I know once an offer is accepted I will be stressed for months.

I understand how you feel, I come from a line of world class worriers!

We are also wanting to move, we will be downsizing massively, we currently have a very large 5 bed detached with large gardens front and back, due to mobility issues we now need 3 bed bungalow, we aren’t on the market yet but dreading moving, just so much to think about and we have a lot of stuff, been here nearly 20 years.

I struggle to sleep as it is, things I try are camomile tea before bed, if I am awake during the night, I try to keep my eyes open, it’s really hard to do when you are tired and that helps me to get back to sleep. It really does work.

The problem with house sales is that they take SO LONG. So you have ages to get more and more stressed. And it really can fall apart at any minute. And it all costs so much, even when it falls apart!

Yes the length of time increases the stress. It will be the first time DH and I have bought together (been together 15 years). I naively thought it would be exciting and fun...

Roselilly36 same here, although we're upsizing, we've got 15 years of crap I don't want to come with us!

I've moved our business before and I still have nightmares about swapping utilities and telephones etc. The experience really put me off!