Dirty Sheets : WWYD?

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NC because TMI (sorry) and here because I didn't know what topic this falls into.

BF and I haven't long been living together, all going swimmingly but obvs still getting to know each other etc. This morning he was out & I went to change the bedding, finding what I can only describe as a couple of skidmarks on his side of our white sheets. Obvs I just whacked them straight on a hot wash & carried on remaking the bed but now I don't know what to do. I don't want to bring it up and embarrass him (I'd be mortified if it were the other way round) but neither do I relish the idea of it happening again. He always sleeps naked unless he has a 'funny tummy' which now makes me think he might have some experience in this field.

Please sensible ladies of MN, what's my best course of action?

If you're close enough to live together you're close enough to tell the scruffy git to wipe his arse properly.

get him told op xx

Does he regularly have a funny tummy. If he has a dirty bottom he needs to shower at night and wear boxers. I wouldn't feel embarrased, he needs to know, I am sure you take care when you have your period. I wouldnt want to share a bed or cuddle up to a dirty bot.

Talk to him! You live with him, I assume you are a grown woman? Communicate!

Forgot to add. You are not his mother, tell him to change his own shitty sheets in the future.

I can’t imagine how dirty his rear end must have been to leave marks on the sheet🤢.

I couldn’t share a bed it’s someone who is that unclean. How could he not have noticed!

Agree you need to speak to him, say it’s a hygiene issue, and also a health issue. Does he need to see a doctor?

Thanks for the varied views, all taken on board, even the slight over-reactions. I should add that in 8 months of my changing the sheets weekly and doing most other laundry (I don't actually check his pants obvs, but sometimes they're inside out in the laundry basket so I feel I'd have noticed) this is a first occurrence. In that amount of time he's worn boxers to bed maybe 2-3 times and I only know it was because he wasn't feeling well because I've expressed surprise at the unusualness.

I may let it slide this time, and if it ever happens again I'll just make sure he's the one to strip the bed that time and assume he'll notice himself. He's not otherwise grubby at all, showers twice a day most days and in good health generally.

How does sleeping naked help his ‘funny tummy?’

@Nicolastuffedone

How does sleeping naked help his ‘funny tummy?’

Other way round; if his stomach's been upset during the day he wears boxers to bed. It's happened maybe 3 nights in 8 months so I don't think he's harbouring any serious medical condition.

Name-change fail OP?

NC fail OP!

Don't know what you're talking about Ladies

Thanks MNHQ

Maybe he's had a trump that wasn't a trump and had he's slid over to get out of bed it's left a smear. If he hasn't realised in the dark he wouldn't have known to sort it out the next morning. Bodily functions happen! Sometimes things don't go to plan and sometimes they're a bit minging 🤷‍♀️ shit happens as they say. Unless he's making a habit of it forget about it there's no point bringing it up and embarrassing him why would you want to make him feel crappy.

Gahd some of you are so mean! It's happened once ffs! we've all got arses and we all take a crap.

OP, if you're uncomfortable shaming him then just leave the duvet off and let him notice it himself if it happens again, he might change his bedtime routine habits then.

Totally agree @Mucky1 some ppl are so bloody precious and intolerable!

*intolerant that should say.... although...

I'm still wondering how it got on the sheets, unless he spread it all over his cheeks, that part of your arse doesn't really come into contact with sheets