Neighbours making life miserable

[mylittlesandwich]

I've posted about them before but it seems to be getting worse. They have parties almost every weekend and they do on until at least 2am. We have an 8 month old who sleeps pretty well but sudden loud noises such as whooping and screaming wake him. I've tried to be reasonable and cut them some slack because I know lockdown has been hard on everyone.
I was accused in January of crashing in to his car, purely because my car was the right colour. Their kids jump on their trampoline (not an issue) but they stare right into our garden when they do it. They also play loud dance music in the garden any time it's remotely sunny.
Last night I could hear every singe word of their loud adult conversation and music, DH had finished a 13 hour shift and couldn't sleep because DS was crying because he couldn't sleep. I went over and asked politely if they could turn it down a little as I couldn't get the baby to stay asleep. She apologised and said of course. I came back home and was happy with the level it had been reduced to, I could still hear them but it wasn't enough to keep anyone awake. Just as I started to dose off the music gets turned right back up (louder than before) Mr next door neighbour start shouting "fuck the neighbours" and starts banging on the wall. This of course wakes DS back up and I'm pretty unsettled by it too. I ended up taking DS into another room so I could let DH sleep a bit, he's in for another long shift today. Me and DS were up most of the night.
I just don't know what to do. I can't afford to move, I didn't really realise they were so hostile and now I'm pretty intimidated. Because if DHs hours I'm here on my own quite a lot especially at night. I was wondering if anyone had any ideas? Anything I could say or do?

Call the council environmental health department 1st thing Monday morning and report them also i suggest that you keep a diary of times and type of noise.
Its not a quick fix but they can be issued with noise abatement order and or an ASBO.
We have neighbours like yours further up the street apparently they have been like this for years and there direct neighbours did this and a council guy spoke to everyone in the street, along with recording the noise and issued a noise abatement order 2 weeks ago so far the threat of a £1000 fine has stopped it all for now.
Good luck

involve the council.

if they rent then contact the landlord. It will take a year to evict even if he decides to do so.

well done for not burning their house down which is what people like this deserve. MN disclaimer - I am NOT suggesting you do this!

If they rent, you have half a hope.

If they are mortgaged, you don't.

Look into moving and view it as saving your sanity. If he's an arse now, he won't improve. I live next door to one, but it's the noise that would push me over the edge.

That sounds awful! Could you and DP try using earplugs? We got soundproofing and triple glazing in the bedrooms and it does make a big difference (we’re on a noisy main road). Obviously not a cheap overnight fix though.
Agree with pp that you should contact the council and also try and record how noisy they are on your phone as evidence.
You could put a note through their door asking to keep it down between 10pm-7am but they sound like the sort of people who would just be even noisier to spite you.

Sympathy. We moved best decision ever

It might have been one of their huests ?
Imagine
"I've got to turn the music down, mylittle has a young baby and her DH is at work tomorrow

Then, selfish git guest ( probably alcohol involved ) " But I want music ......Fuck the neighbours " and hoiks up the volume

Our neighbours had a party , yesterday there was BBQ smoke , noise from kids (as they do) but really irritating whooping that no-one said "Ah now that's annoying , stop that"

It goes on with neighbours and yes , it is part of the Lockdown free for all.
But it is selfish to ignore your perfectly reasonable requests .

This sounds horrendous- you have my total sympathies. I know how stressful it is when other people's selfish and antisocial behaviour is keeping your DC up or waking them up.
People this selfish and nasty just blow my mind. How are their own DCs sleeping through these 2am parties??
Definitely report to council- you might not realise that other neighbours could already have done this and they could already have a 'file' to add your report to.
If they are renting contact the landlord too.
Try and take recordings of noise when it happens and save on a computer and send over to council along with date and time of when recording was taken.

We had this. I immediately went to chat and they pretended to be better but just tried to be sneakier about how they disrupted people.
A few neighbours congregating in the front street colonising our neighbourhood and basically making it a no go area for decent private people, who didn’t want to hear constant selfish noise for 16 hours per day.
I’ve involved the community police team who are currently canvassing the neighbours all of whom have described feeling ‘desperate and under siege’... yet none of them have done anything about it.
People fear reprisals.

Things have been amazing since and some people thought the problem families had actually moved out the difference has been so stark. My focus now is to ensure it is a long term change and not temporary.

Do you have a community police team op?

not sure why people think renting makes a difference. we had the tenant from hell...would have been cheaper to leave the place empty for the 18 months she was there. She caused the neighbour a load of grief - barking dog (which tenancy said she couldnt have) that poo'd everywhere and police regularly called for antisocial behaviour. We did evict her because she didnt pay rent, but its very costly and timeconsuming and to be honest we wouldnt/couldnt have done it just cause a neighbour said they were noisy.

check out your council - it can be slow to start with - we were sent a noise diary - but they did pop round before we had finisihed as they said they had multiple complaints......(I'm not sure they had but the Environmental health people were quite scary...think they mentioned fines/ confiscation of equipment to them ) and it really worked... I think they moved as it went from at least a couple of all nighters a week to none in a month

dreaming

If it’s housing association some can nuisance behaviour clauses. Three strikes and you’re out kind of thing. They have to be legitimate and confirmed incidents of course but good associations can be very quick these days at acting.

No they own, not rented and lived here before we did. I'm going to my mums so she can watch the wee one for an hour and I can have a nap. Once my head is back on straight I'll have a look at the local council website. Thanks everyone. I also won't be going to their door again.

It was the actual neighbour banging, I could hear all the voices and the rest of the conversation.

Idiot! I hope the council can help you.
Maybe some early morning drilling on the party wall will teach him a lesson

Keep a log and involve the council.

Maybe some early morning drilling on the party wall will teach him a lesson

Might make them feel better but won't help the noise nuisance case with the council.