Buying a house near some flats

[bjoke]

Am I being unreasonable in not wanting to buy my next house near some block of flats?
So we have been looking at properties for a while now (abt 6 months). Then came lockdown and we were holed up. Then lockdown was lifted and houses were flying off the shelves. Our offer was accepted on a property we liked just before the last weekend and on Monday we got gazumped.
So back to house hunting, the thing there is only one property that is left for us to consider. But this property is next to a block of 9 flats. After going to view it, we discovered there are more blocks of 6 flats about 5 more. And more so, it's a long cul-de-sac, so 1 way in and out.
The situation is this, I have 3 daughters and I am concerned for their well being. We want to live in the next house we buy for the next 15 years.
My husband thinks i'm being unreasonable. Am I? Am I over thinking this?

Are you trying to say something without saying it? As in what you actually mean is “a block of council flats”.

Because there’s more people? Wtf?

"Are flats full of horrible chavs or does anyone know if there can be nice people like us in them?" I think that's what the OP is asking.

Sexual predators don’t all live in flats! Look at Prince Andrew......

[quote bjoke]@Waxonwaxoff0
I'm not a snob, I grew up in a block of 24 flats. And the things that we got up too that our parents dare not know about,[/quote]
But you think that people who live in houses don’t get up to anything? I don’t think that works.

Not all flats are social housing or occupied by ne’er-do-well knife toting drug dealers.
I live in a flat for which I paid over half a million pounds some years ago and is now valued at more. Should I consider you, thinking of buying a house near me worth half that amount, as inferior and a threat to my health and safety. My neighbours and I are all well educated, socially responsible considerate people. Lovely to live beside in fact.
Get a grip of yourself.

Dear God

I have come across neurotic folk before but you, OP, take the biscuit .

Bizarre. How can flats impact wellbeing?

Ah you almost had be @bjoke .

Good one

Me*

bjoke be a joke . I do hope so as you sound awfully strange if it is serious

YABVVVVU. YA also a complete knob end

My cousin actually moved house because of plans to build a small block of flats about 1/4 mile from her house.

It was a sign of the beginning of the end, apparently It starts with a small block of flats, within a few years the whole neighbourhood is overrun with feral knife wielding immigrant gangsters who will lure your children into a life of drugs and debauchery...

Yes, some people think like this. How they can live their lives in such a state of constant terror and suspicion, I have no idea.

This is all very interesting.
I wasn't trying to sound like a snob. I'm sorry if I offended anyone that might be living in a flat or near flats. I never referred to their social class or whether it is social housing. I was just wondering if there could be any reason at all why anyone might not want to consider this. I'm not saying there aren't any of those type maniacs living in houses.

This is utterly ridiculous and snobby, what a bizarre thought process. You do realise in that I. cities most professionals live in flats...

Big grown up fail, OP. Don't buy the house near the flats, they don't need the likes of you there.

maniacs . How quaint and old fashioned a word.

Don't they lived in houses then ? Just flats?

I live in a flat with my family (and the sexual predator we keep locked in the cupboard obviously)

Ah I didn't see that you state you are not saying there are no maniacs in houses .

Either you are having a joke or you are quite a bizarre person

How bizarre

Everyone is taking the piss, but in my experience, having a run down block with undesirable tenants can really be a problem. Having a nice well-maintained block with good tenants isn't. I lived in ex-council rental for many years and yes, the flats opposite were a source of continued problems including drug-dealing and needles lying around the front of the flats. My mum lives on a lovely road with lots of flats at the top and there is a stream of shouting unpleasant substance-using people walking up the road to get home, there was also a murder last year.

That's not to say drug-dealing doesn't happen everywhere in cities, it does, and one of the houses (not flat) nearby our house was used by dealers til eventually it was sold to a lovely family who have done it up.

Clearly it's not the flat that is the issue, its whether it is used as social housing for the most difficult tenants who would struggle or get thrown out of private housing sectors. Councils do often cluster these type of tenants and it's not weird not to want to live next door to a troublesome block.

The OP grew up in a block, I'm sure she has a better idea than many of us what problems can be contained in SOME flat blocks.

The only real reason to ever not live near flats is of it means you’re very overlooked. Doesn’t sound like the case here so assume you’re an actual weirdo.

And- if it's a well maintained mixed block with well-maintained areas and gardens and cars, then there won't be an issue. Take a good look around the area, go back at night, chat with a couple of flat owners coming out if you can, just get a feel for the area.

I wouldn't want to live in some blocks of flats, others I'd love to live in!

You can choose to live where you want so you are not being unreasonable in that respect. I have no idea what you are getting at though. If you got up to wild stuff as a teenager living in a flat that's because you were a wild teenager not because you lived in a flat. Was there piped music in the lift with lyrics that encouraged you to go wild? 🙄. I've no idea what you are talking about.

Oh lord, we are considering selling our house and buying a flat when all the children have left home. Does this mean we're going to be looked upon as n'er do wells and drug addicted lunatics? 😂

I live in a block of 4 flats
Me, two retired couples and a young family with two children who both work FT. It's the quietest block ever. The house across the road - one family live there and they don't have a volume button. At all