To not want daughter to sleep over at grandparents ?

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Need some advise please .

I've been trying to stop my daughter from sleeping over at her grandmothers house for a few years now but my mum always bullies me into saying yes. She tells me I'm being unreasonable.
My daughter loves going so no issue there.

The issue is that I don't feel comfortable .

When she is there she sleeps really late,
is allowed to eat whatever she wants (sweets etc) Also , both my brothers still love there and she has a good relationship with them but I think they set a bad example . They are both jobless and just play video games all day .

I should mention that my mum expects DD to sleep over EVERY two weeks !

So my questions are: am I being unreasonable ? And how do I tell me mum no ? Without her being able to guilt me ? ;(

I am so so stressed with all this, it's just fuelling my anxiety

How old is your DD?

If she wants to go I think once in a while won't hurt. If it's just a case of a late night and a few foodie treats I wouldn't be too concerned. That's what grandparents do isn't it?

I definitely wouldn't be dictated to and agree to once every 2 weeks though.

Just tell her no. You dont even have to give her a reason, although it sounds like there are plenty.
Your mum sounds like a bully. You need to stand up to her.

If your not happy say no if its tge late nights etc then have a chat with your mum.

Either she can go in holidays and do as she does now or better bedtimes etc if it's in school time.