Am I the only one boring enough to be content right now?

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At the start of lockdown I was sad, mainly for my DS (age 4) not being able to go to nursery or do anything he used to do, softplay and playgrounds etc. And for my parents, that we weren't able to see them and that they weren't able to see the DC.

Since lockdown started to ease at the beginning of June and we were able to meet another household outdoors, I've actually been really happy and content with the way our lives are.

It's not always easy, DH is working from home full time and me PT, I'm very lucky that I'm only doing about 50% hours currently but still getting full pay. The DCs are both under 5 so demanding and full on, we don't get much time in the weekdays between work and keeping them entertained/fed etc. There's some days where everyone gets on each others' nerves a bit.

But I also feel insanely lucky that we've had this time with the DCs, which we never would have had. We have a nice house, not huge but a good size. A nice small-medium, simple but perfect adequate garden. Nearby fields/parks for walks and DC bike rides. We've been able to see friends and family for walks or in gardens.

Our days are really similar and the weeks just melt into each other. I don't even watch all that much in the way of TV, some evenings I just go on my phone, maybe go for a walk and listen to a podcast.

It's lovely, but the fact that this is fulfilling me makes me think I must be quite boring!

I have looked over the edge of a mountain, been in a full scale riot, talked in front of a thousand people. But when I sit in the garden under the pear tee with DH drinking tea that is absolutely enough for me.

I'm happy like you. I don't care if people think I'm boring. I like being boring I enjoy my life as it is and we can't all be the same, now that would be boring. X

That isn’t boring. It sounds blissful. I wish I experienced life like you do.
For me, contentment is something I have to work at.
@Valkadin what a beautiful sentiment!

I think, as you say in the body of your post, it's about the fact you are lucky rather than being boring.

I would imagine most people would be content or outright happy with the situation you're describing, wouldn't they?

I have seen people die very suddenly and very slowly, seen a part of my body that's really not supposed to be visible, had weapons pointed at me... Boring is good, and contentment is better.

Am I the only one affluent and privileged enough to be content right now?

FTFY

@blurpityblurp that's really not the spirit of this thread

I would certainly not call us affluent. We have enough but we're not particularly well off. My DC have never been abroad and the older one is 5 this year. Yes we're lucky that neither of us are keyworkers and had to go out to work, we've both been WFH.

As PPs say, you’re describing your luck with health and work.

Not ‘boring’ to appreciate it.

What is the spirit of this thread OP? It does seem to be about how lucky you are in a myriad of different ways. What are you trying to convince yourself about?

Wow what a patronising post.
I’m sure people who have lost their jobs or businesses or have been in complete isolation wish they were as boring as you.

Its not affluence that helps with feeling content it's job security. I see affluence as earning a very high amount I earn £25 K but no concerns that my job will be going anywhere.

I started feeling a lot more content when I stopped watching the news, I know the situation is dire, I know people are dying and having an awful time but I don't need to hear about it everyday. We keep to our selves, read and updates on protocols - mask wearing etc then get on with our lives. On a personal level it has been lovely. DD has had the odd teary moment about missing her friends but on the whole we have been enjoying the small things.

But, we have a garden, live in walking distance of the beach, woodland and a lovely nature reserve. I'm sure thing aren't quite as content for those in a high rise block in a city centre, this must have been a terrible experience for them - despite the fact they may be more affluent then me.

I know what you mean op. Im working at w9rk iyswim but i feel safe and im glad i have a job and i find weekends so relaxing now. No plans. No fomo.

I don't think this post is patronising at all, I think it's nice the OP seems to be appreciating the simpler things in life. I know I am. I'm quite content in my home, we have a little garden we can sit out in and it's lovely to not be rushing about like we normally are. Dc have had the odd tearful moment but on the whole seem relaxed and happy. I think maybe I am quite boring but I'm fine with that!

I'm afraid I agree it's a patronising post. The OP begins by admitting she's very lucky, but flares up when someone calls her affulent.

Ok, we could all split hairs about what that means, but I don't think it is a stretch to say someone on 25k who has a partner also earning, may be quite comfortable. Certainly the situation described sounds like a fair degree of financial comfort.

It's not insulting to say that.

I don't think the OP's wrong to want to celebrate that she's having a nice time, nor wrong to wonder if other people also enjoy a slower-paced life. But it's a bit off not to have some perspective.

This is about the 25th thread I’ve read saying the same thing over the past few months so no, you’re not the only one.

Just because you're content doesn't mean you're boring. You are lucky. I'm fed up and miserable with how my life is, and jealous