Do school friendships change

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DS (5) has always been a social little fella, bright, happy and fun loving. He’s usually quick to make friends but seems to have not fit in with the group of boys in his class. He plays very well with couple of lovely girls who he regards as his best friends. It appears boys in his class have played in groups of 3-4 and he claims they never include him in their games. He went back to school after lockdown in a bubble of 15 including 5 boys which I hoped would help him. Turns out they’re allowed to play in a group of 3 max and he isn’t allowed to play by the other boys. He has come home extremely saying they don’t like him. I’ve tried play dates in the past but didn’t really get any reciprocal invited. I mentioned this to his teacher who said he has lots of friends And doesn’t stick to anyone group. I’m wondering if things can change when he goes to Year1? I have no concerns about him playing with only girls but would like to have a diverse set of friends if possible.

I was quite concerned about my ds when he was little, because he "did friendships" differently from the way I did.
He would very much play with whoever was around. He was just as you describe your ds - sociable, fun loving, friendly. From his first playgroup he would always just walk in a room and assume everyone wanted to play with him. He has never been alone, but he never used to seem to keep friendships growing. I worried for a long time, but didn't need to. He is an adult now and still similar. When he is 'out' with mates, or even sitting playing FIFA I wouldn't put money on who it is he is with. He has lots and lots of different groups of friends. Now I can look on it as a positive.
His sister is different - she had the same 'gang' from Yr1 - Yr6.
Did take me a long time to understand doing it differently wasn't necessarily a problem.

Yes, my DD1's bestie now at the age of 9 in year 4, isn't the same kid who was her bestie in Reception! Things change and friendships change.