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Always on my own- what can I do

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Littlelola · 14/07/2020 21:17

Dh has a job where he is often out of the house on evenings, usually 2-4 per week but he also has different things he goes to other evenings so very often I'm on my own. My job is currently working from home so I have nobody to talk to, have 2 young DC so have to be in for them. Dh has been awful during lockdown, doing as he pleases while I work and home school my DC plus doing everything for the house e.g. cooking, cleaning. Feel like my life is just ground hog day. I'm super bored and lonely and have no way of stopping it. I have friends but obviously can't see them we chat now and again but all have young kids so very busy. Dh is going out for tea for the second time in 2 weeks tomorrow and I've snapped at him, now he has taken the hump about me making him feel guilty for going out, me and him havent been out for tea since February 2019 and I never say a word!

What can I do from home that feels useful rather than I'm just wasting my life?? Obviously working full time and homeschooling leaves me pretty tired so working out till I have the body of a goddess is not an option but I'd like something to do!

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LeGrandBleu · 14/07/2020 22:55

I am a transcriber for the Australian Archives. I transcribe mainly WWI diaries which are too damaged or with a difficult to read handwriting that software can convert.
I am also a translator for Coursera, TED talks and Khan academy . Not all at the same time of course.
All this for free of course. They are the crowdsourcing projects that bring something to me. At some point I was classifying galaxies and stars for GalaxyZoo and had a go at mapping remote roads. But I wasn't learning anything so I quit those. You can find a list of crowdsourcing projects here en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_crowdsourcing_projects

I am also a Mooc (massive open online courses) addict since 2012 and you can pick the one you like on either Coursera or EdX. Yale also offers a wide range of single courses for free on Openyale.

And podcast? Gosh, I almost plan long drives so I can listen to long podcast. I love Peter Attia, but that's very medical .

What do you like? What have you always wanted to do? Learn a language? Help a cause close to your heart or learn more about the Israeli-palestinian conflict?
The internet is so powerful. Go for it.

( I would however object to the not getting the body of a goddess. I believe abs are like French verbs (I worked as a French teacher) , 10 min twice a day make miracles. )

alexdgr8 · 14/07/2020 23:16

who does yr husband go out for tea with.
that sounds odd, for a married man with a family, why is he sloping off so much. and why have you allowed it to develop. it's not normal.
you are joint parents. it's not your sole job to raise the children.
he seems to be opting out.
next time he says you are making him feel guilty, say, well maybe people feel guilty when they are doing something wrong.
it's better than not caring at all. at least it suggests he still has a conscience.
but you need to talk to him calmly, perhaps write down some points first. he should be there, with you, unless he is unavoidably working in the evenings.
this is a relationship issue more than a filling your time/ being bored/ isolated issue.
otherwise it reads as if you are a single parent.
good luck.

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