My wedding - what should we do!

[Ohjustme]

Nicola broke the great news that 20 guests could attend a wedding. We thought that was the green light and we were good to go. Until the registrar told us it was looking like they could only accommodate 10 guests to ensure 2 metres apart. We quickly contacted a humanist who would be able to marry us in my partners back garden (still adhering to outside meeting) Excellent, everything sorted!

Now the registrar has just called to say actually we can fit 13 guests in! We only have 11. We've paid the registrar but not the humanist.

Now i feel awful cancelling the humanist. But it would save us £400. Not huge in the grand scheme of things but part of the reason we wanted a small wedding was a small budget.

Oh, should add our wedding is in 10 days time!

Cancel the humanist. Wouldn’t you still have to register with registrar anyway?

I'd cancel the humanist.

@finfintytint Everything is arranged with the registrar. Notice of marriage received etc.
Im going to cancel with the humanist. Ive been given so much information recently and we've thought so many times the day wasn't going to happen i think im incapable of making decisions for myself!

Enjoy your wedding!

Seems a bit harsh on the humanist if they can't get their money back. Perhaps offer something for their wasted time.

@hercwasonaroll we haven't paid for the actual humanist yet, just the membership to the Humanist society.

Ah OK, but still if they've turned down work to agree to your wedding it could be annoying for them.

You haven't paid the humanist, you don't owe them anything. Since when did paying for a cancelled service become a thing? I can't imagine having an appointment cancelled then expecting my next one to be free for example.

Go ahead with the registrar, sounds much easier anyway.

But you have cancelled the humanist, he hasn't cancelled you.

I'd expect to pay for a cancelled dentist/hairdresser, at least a cancellation fee.

We only arranged the humanist late last night. I do feel bad but id much prefer to stick to my original plans. I admit i jumped the gun by contacting the humanist.

Who’s Nicola?

He's a humanist, he will understand.

If you only booked the humanist last night, I'd just cancel. It's not like he's turned down other work.

@PenguinBarnotBird

Who’s Nicola?

sturgeon I'm assuming. First Minister of Scotland

Ah OK thats fair enough. He probably wouldn't have got other work. I was thinking it'd been a week or something.

Sorry sounds like im on 1st name terms with the First Minister!