Is this really happening to me ?

[Chickaletta16]

Its actually a good thing...im getting married in a few weeks to a gorgeous Doctor..who is totally in love with me. In a divorced.mum of 4 kids..who has been treated vadly all her life by my family and ex husband..

Im scared of being happy..i still can't understand why he wants to marry me..he has welcomed us into his home and family and treats me like a queen.

I panick when he is late replying..i worry he will leave me..i worry im too fat..im worrying too much to enjoy planning my wedding..

Any advice for me x

Anyone

Oh love! I know it’s hard to believe that something good can happen to you after a life time of shit. I’m still waiting, believe me!

Just enjoy it!

I'm happy for you too x

Thank you. I keep praying that if it's a dream i never wakeup x

This is giving me hope!!!

He's seen the lovely person you are. 💕

Try to relax OP - take a deep breath and tell yourself that this is real and that you deserve to be happy. Congratulations on your forthcoming wedding, and I hope you have a fabulous day.

Very happy for you!

Have you ever had therapy to help you come to terms with your past? Would it be something you would consider? It could help you massively with your self esteem.

Congratulations

I am considering therapy..i am hoping i can put the past behind me and accept my future.

@EatsShootsAndRuns what a lovely thing to say. Thank u so much x

You deserve it. You deserve to be happy. I struggled with accepting I could finally be happy when I met my amazing husband, following my previous DV relationship. I worried I didn't deserve it, worried it would all go wrong like the last time. It hasn't! I am so so glad I took the leap and believed in love again.
Enjoy it

So happy for you.xx

Congratulations @Chickaletta16 How utterly lovely for you. Enjoy your new life!

My dh said he felt privileged to have been welcomed and accepted by my dc when we married.
I had many more dc than you op!!
5 years married now!
Congratulations - and enjoy your amazing day!

Jump in with both feet and enjoy! You've survived and thrived after getting through shit times. You can use that knowledge to strengthen yourself - if anything awful happens, well you've been through shit before and you can do it! You're stronger now.💪💪

This is your Happy Ever After - enjoy it!

@spiderlight I.love that..yes..it is my Happy Ever After...

I really hope that this relationship is much more equal and peaceful than your previous relationships, you really do deserve to be happy.
Could you look into having some Counselling/ CBT or doing the Freedom Programme or something similar? It's really important for you to go into this relationship with an open heart, but also to have really clear boundaries to protect yourself from further abuse and control. Learning more about common red flags etc could help you be more sure that this relationship is different. I truly hope it is!

Agree with above poster re: therapy, coming to terms with what happened to you, and learning how to spot abusive behaviour.

How long have you been together with your partner, OP? It all sounds wonderful 🙂.
Though i'd just like to point out that even doctors could be abusers.

But lets hope his really is your happy ending, wishing you all the very best.

Thing is... you can't control if it's real or if it lasts. You may as well assume it is and it will. The alternative is that it's crap anyway on account of all the worrying!

We are having an intimate wedding ceremony at our home..i have arranged to have the garden transformed into a magical set up..

Ive bought my wedding outfit..he asked me where I wanted to go on honeynoon...ive asked him to surprise me..

Im shopoing for bridal lingerie today...hr gas arranged for a florist to come and decoratenour bedroom with a stunnkng.floral display and candles..he has been so attentive and everything my orebious partners were not I could cry.

I am doing the freedom programme at the moment. It is very helpful.

Please.keep me in your prayers ladies...I just want my happy ever.after .