I just need some company this evening

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A very good friend of ours died totally unexpectantly on the night Thursday/Friday. We had spent Thursday evening together in our local and we all went home together - a few minutes walk, we live just around the corner from each other.We heard from his wife on Friday that he had died and I just can't believe it. It is true, I know it to be a fact but somehow I just can't realise this in my head.My husband has cried but I haven't been able to shed a single tear, as if I do that it is admitting/accepting that he's gone.I don't mean to be blase, but if older people die is it easier to accept? Is the difference here that we are only a few years apart? And that it was so unexpected?

I'm so sorry to hear this, what a terrible shock. I can't answer your question but an unexpected death has left no time to prepare...although the death of anyone close is, of course, devastating and can create a sense of denial. Take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve in your own time.

What an awful thing to happen Op it may well take a while to sink in it has actually happened ( recent personal experience).
Offering a hand hold.

Thank you for the responses, it really means very much to me. We saw another friend on Saturday afternoon and he made a comment, "well better this way than suffering." which I can totally understand. Perhaps what is making it more difficult is that we all have a mutual friend ( my best friend here) who has been in a coma for the past five years. Her children were very young and we have done as much as we can for her husband and children. Maybe it just scares me to realise that you don't know what the next day might bring.