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How do I deal with this ?

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55biscuitsAndamugofTea · 11/07/2020 22:05

Dh has got a new job and we have to relocate.
The dc are as a majority fine with this. Quite adaptable except dd (10)
She is devastated and doesn’t want to leave the area, her school, her friends
She has some MH and other issues which mean it could seriously affect her but we can’t see any way round this we have to either do what’s best for the majority or for just one.

It’s too far away that she could stay where she is at school. We can’t split the family up but she is that unwell that the repercussions could be terrible.
I honestly feel so bad. I don’t know what to do.

Dh needs this job. We need the money it will bring we need the move and it is the right thing for everyone else but how do you manage something like this as I’m worried it will really damage dd

She’s not very adaptable and I’m feeling quite upset. It’s always been the case that we just do what’s right for everyone yet this time it’s not possible what am I meant to do hope for the best and try to support her through it.
I feel very guilty

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Rebeccasmoonnecklace · 12/07/2020 03:45

Does your Daughter receive any support for her MH needs and other issues? If so would it be helpful to find out what support she would be able to access in the area you will be moving too? This might provide her with some reassurance Flowers

55biscuitsAndamugofTea · 12/07/2020 17:43

It’s more she doesn’t want to leave her school, other things can be easily transferred but it’s friends etc that are the massive issue

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Elieza · 12/07/2020 18:11

Can you go to the area first to see it and get familiar with it?

Could she meet anyone at anything that’s on over the summer, I’m imagining there won’t be much opportunity because if Covid but if there were any summer schools on for any subjects or clubs or something? She could even take her current bestie?
If she felt more comfortable first then it may not be so daunting actually moving there.
How far are we talking? Far enough that could could take her to see her pals ‘every weekend’ (which you could then tail off once she gets new pals)? Or that the pal could stay over every second weekend or something?
If there is some kind of normality and continuity it may be better than nothing if her mh isn’t the best just now.

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