Do you expect to eat together?

[ImFree2doasiwant]

If you do all the cooking, do you eat with your other half? Or do you think its acceptable to say "I'm starting dinner, it'll be 30 minutes" then "dinners nearly ready" only for your OH (husband in my case) not to eat their dinner for up to a hour after it's ready.

This was before children, just the 2 of us, both working full time. After children I fed them separately and "we" are later. Often me while the for was hot and him sometime after.

If one of us has cooked for both we always eat together - before and after kids. It we're cooking separately (eg often now as I have specific dietary requirements) then we don't always wait for the other

@WorraLiberty not really no, I'd usually get in between 7 and 7.30, he's already be in, and I would often cook for 8 or 8.30.

DP eats later than me because he works long hours and I have no interest in eating at 10pm. So I just have mine when I fancy it and either make or reheat his when he gets in.

However on weekends we always eat together but we’d decide together when we wanted to eat. I’d never just start making dinner and expect him to be ready to eat it

If I've gone to the bother of cooking for him, I expect him to turn up when it's ready. If he's had fair warning, I get quite vocal if he's faffing when it's ready. Unless he's already warned me that he's really busy and wants to crack on with his work. I'd stop cooking for him in your case, OP. Sod that. What's the point of being married to someone if they can't even be arsed to eat a meal with you?

[quote ImFree2doasiwant]@WorraLiberty not really no, I'd usually get in between 7 and 7.30, he's already be in, and I would often cook for 8 or 8.30.[/quote]
He sounds rude then

And a lazy fucker if he didn't at least start the cooking if he was home first.

Still at least he's your ex now!

@pickingdaisies I have, we're seperated. He keeps wanting to go over the reasons. They are many and varied, and I think he has underestimated the effect of years of this sort of thing. Of course it's not the reason for splitting, but these things are cumulative for me.

@WorraLiberty he never cooked a single meal for me.

In that case, OP, you don't owe him any explanation. If he didn't get it when you were together, then he's not going to understand it now, is he! And I totally get the cumulative thing. I'm guessing it was an indication of how things were generally. Don't waste any more of your time soothing his ego.