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To expect a social services call/ visit

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EmbarrassedWoman · 09/07/2020 11:57

Outing for people who know me but thats okay.
I had dd 6 months at a&e last night.
I was sitting on the floor and she was standing holding my hands. One hand slipped out of mine and she fell to the floor onto a glass tumber.
The glass did not break but she cut the crease of her eye and as it was so close to the eye i wanted a doctor to double check her.
They gave her calpol and i got a head injury information sheet.
I was so lucky she was not more seriously hurt. Had the glass broke- it doesnt bear thinking about.
What should i expect now?
I know there is safe guarding in place to keep at risk children safe and i am happy to work with anyone who wants to see or check on her. (No previous social work involvment)
I sent my health visitor a message similar to this so she is aware she had a head injury too as i know this is serious with a child under 1.
I feel so bad and i love my little girl completely. I am happy to work with anyone who wants to check if she is safe.
Has anyone had experice of this?
Is there anyone else i need to inform?
Thank you for reading

OP posts:
Jessbow · 09/07/2020 13:07

You probably wont even get a phone call based on the injury, What might prompt one is you almost ''over enthusiasm' to prove that all is well.

Its happened. all is well, move on

DarkMintChocolate · 09/07/2020 13:13

DS, aged 6 had 3 trips to A & E in 6 months - one due jumping off the top of the climbing frame in the playground, and he broke his collarbone while playing WWF with a friend. The consultant insisted on hearing his account of it. The poor man looked lost as DS said

“Well, I was the Boss Man and X was The Undertaker, he swung me round and I fell back on the arm of the chair...”

Luckily, the nurse clearly had cable and nodded at the consultant! Nothing more came of it!

peachgreen · 09/07/2020 13:17

because the elbow injury was a bit of a red flag for medics

Gosh that's interesting as it was the opposite to what I was told when DD dislocated hers. The doctor said it's incredibly common in under 2s and they call it "uncle's elbow" because it's often caused by an exuberant uncle swing them around by the arms! It happened so easily - DD and DH were running in the garden, she fell while holding his hand and started screaming. It was awful at the time but within 10 minutes of it being popped back in she was using it as normal and bright as a button.

ForeverBubblegum · 09/07/2020 13:17

DD had a head injury just before 6 months, she was fine and they had no concerns about how it happened, but still had to put in a referral. They said if she had been a few weeks old they wouldn't have reported it, but they have to under 6 months.

As your DD is a bit old they may not have reported, but even if they do it's no big deal. SS just passed it on to my health visitor, who came for a visit. She happen to arrive as I was on my way to pick up DS for nursery. I asked if she could rescue/ wait, but she said no need as she had seen me. It was literally a 1 minute chat on the drive.

PurpleThistles84 · 09/07/2020 13:18

My DD1 had a fractured skull at 7 months old. This was due to her father (my exH) thinking it was a good idea to remove her from the safety of her car seat, sit her on the passenger seat of his tipper van, open the passenger door and stand beside smoking and not paying attention. She fell out and landed on concrete. He was waiting for me to come out of a doctors appointment.

We had to repeat what happened again and again to various doctors and nurses. It was quite clear that even they were shocked at my exh’s stupidity. I really thought social services would swoop in and take her way. However I never heard a thing from them.

As we were leaving the hospital, we were speaking to the doctor about aftercare and exh handed my DD a straw whilst I held her. She proceeded to stick it in her eye in front of the doctor and scream the place down. Brilliant.

WhoUsedMyName · 09/07/2020 13:30

My 3 boys were always in and out of hospital so far we've done 1 broken wrists, 1 broken collar bone, 3broken fingers, 1 broken arm and a partridge in a pair tree........then came the last broken arm which did get followed up by SS his arm was completely snapped in two places it was done at school so they followed it up we didn't even get a home visit just a phone call to say case closed basically.

WhoUsedMyName · 09/07/2020 13:33

Ooo not forgetting the bike chain incident! My son amputated the top of his pinky on his bike chain 🤢

Biglumpycustard · 09/07/2020 13:54

Something similar happen to my son when he was about the same age, but he was in the bath and a shampoo bottle got knocked and hit his crease of his eyelid. He needed it glued,no one got involved.

NYCDreaming · 09/07/2020 14:00

My son was about two... he tripped up and fell headfirst onto a storage heater. He split his head open and there was bloody EVERYWHERE! Made worse by the fact that he'd fallen headfirst onto the floor in exactly the same way a few days before, so there was a huge 'old' bruise directly behind the cut. It looked terrible! We never heard anything from the HV.

Like others have said, there are certain signatures of non accidental injuries that they look out for. I'm sure you'll be fine.

dottiedodah · 09/07/2020 14:04

My DD fell backwards off a bench and hit her head on the concrete.No follow up needed ,knew it was just an accident .Another time ate some soap powder. Again no probs .Small children and accidents go hand in hand unfortunatley! I remember playing on the back/top of DGMs sofa and twisting my arm! Dont worry just relax .Probably not the first or last time!

SimonJT · 09/07/2020 14:10

There will most likely be many more injuries.

I hit my son in the head with a radiator just before he turned two, he had a very impressive egg on his head, I had a black eye at A&E (rugby) and my SW wasn’t informed (adopted)!

We’ve had a cut on his scalp needed stitches from falling down the concrete stairs to a basement flat, again no SS visit.

Our last one in February (valentines day!) was a broken arm and a concussion again from stairs, no SS call that time either.

There have also been three trips to remove various things from his nose.

dottiedodah · 09/07/2020 14:11

Who Used My name Oh yes! my DS was about 11 and managed to fall off a seat in the park hurting his knee .Plastered for 3 weeks Also managed to hurt his hand play fighting with his friend FFS! The School
(All Boys) joked that they had a "Crutch Club " for all the boys that were injured playing sports ,riding bikes and so on.

Mrskeats · 09/07/2020 14:14

My youngest daughter could trip over a matchstick. Always falling/getting hurt doing sport etc. A few trips to a and e. Nothing from SS ever. My gp said his on did rugby and was there all the time and not to worry. All kids have accidents.

Mrskeats · 09/07/2020 14:14

*son

mummyh2016 · 09/07/2020 14:22

I was going to say you will most likely get a phone call, my DD fell out the high chair at 7 months old and SS called me two days after we'd took her to a+e. Just wanted to hear from me what had happened and said they would be taking no further action.
In my area though they seem to have handed this job onto GPs. My DD fell over 6/7 weeks ago and cut her face, around 1/2 inch from her eye. It wouldn't stop bleeding so I took her to a+e. A week later I got a call off my drs surgery saying the dr wanted to do a follow up call following the a+e visit. The GP asked me the same sort of questions that SS had asked me 2 years earlier following the high chair incident. I would be prepared for a call but no need to worry about it.

Apolloanddaphne · 09/07/2020 14:28

I am a SW and can tell you that an injury like that won't be followed up by SS. If the injury is consistent with the explanation and there are no other concerns it won't be an issue.

ballsdeep · 09/07/2020 14:30

Oh op! I hope you're ok. Accidents are absolutely awful and babies bounce back quickly, it's the constant replaying that makes us feel worse Xxx
My 15 month old fell over a ball into a wall and cracked his head open. The HV just phoned a few days later to see if he was ok

BilboBercow · 09/07/2020 14:32

You'll be fine op honestly. It was an accident, these things will happen over the course of your DDs childhood and they happen to everyone.

RockyisMYRhino · 09/07/2020 14:52

OP I had to take my DS (nearly 2) to a&e recently after he touched the cooker while it was on and burned his finger (I was right next to him when he did it but he was too quick for me to stop him!). I only took him as a precaution to check how deep the burn was more than anything else as I wasn't sure if there was anything else I could/should have done (had put his hand straight under the cold tap for aaaaagggges as soon as it happened). I got a call from the HV the next day to see how he was and make sure I was ok as well but that was it. Nothing to worry about at all.

Antipodeancousin · 09/07/2020 17:03

No way, accidents happen. Unless this was a pattern that suggested neglect you would
not be referred to social work.

whoknowswhichwayisup · 09/07/2020 17:07

This sort of thing happens all the time.

My son had an incident and I got a call from the HV just to check he was ok the following day but that was it. Nothing to worry about

Gin4thewin · 09/07/2020 17:17

DS was awful as a toddler, we went in for an 8hour toxic watch because he opened a bottle of albos oil, dropped a concrete block on him thumb and broke it, bit through his tongue so that it needed stitching back together...the list goes on... i got a phone call from the HV, each time with a 'whats he done now!' I said he was fine and that was the end of it. The fact you went to hospital shows you care in my opinion, avoiding going says you have something to hide

Kust · 09/07/2020 17:50

Social worker here and I've worked in a accidental injury team before. Hospitals only refer to us when a 'story' doesn't add up with the injury or when they are concerned about physical appearance/old bruising.

I say that as a mum who took her child to hospital (aged 2) after she had nose dived off the sofa on to a large metal fish tank. Needed 8 stitches.

Hospital, children services, midwives and GP's are more worried about the parents who don't get their child's injuries looked at

AntiSocialDistancer · 09/07/2020 18:01

It's not "serious" to the HV team, accidents happen.

They might call you but just to see if everyone's ok.

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