I can't cope with these neighbours anymore

[CochonDinde]

I just need to vent. I've been working from home since March and also trying to homeschool my DD, and my neighbours have just got me in a constant state of anxiety. They put their 6 kids out about 10am each day. The kids screech and bounce basketballs until about 10pm at night. I can't cope with it. I already suffer with misophonia, but I think I'd struggle with this level of noise even without this condition. I feel like I'm on the verge of bloody tears constantly with it. I've moved my desk to the furthest point away but I can still hear their screeches and the constant bloody thud of the basketball. I feel pissed off constantly, it's affecting my ability to work and my relationship with my daughter. I know, sod all I can do about it either as kids are entitled to play. I'm saving up to move house (purely because of them), but thats not going to be feasible for a year or two.

Roll on September when schools go back and I can have some reprieve!

Anyone else struggling with neighbour noise?

Yes, neighbours one door down let kids out at 7.30am,kids were never out before lockdown as they were in school, afterschool. They screech and fight and scream non stop. I've children myself and don't allow that behaviour. Children can have fun and play but screaming constantly with no parental supervision is just plain selfish.

Yeah both sides, on one side they are Eastern European so we don't communicate much but they are lovely and pleasant. They have a teen girl and a boy about 6 who clearly has special needs but i'm not sure they know what to do about it! He spends alot of time in the garden throwing a hammer at the fence, he goes to the toilet around the garden too (both types 👀) then at around 9:30pm he puts the garden hose on and sprays it at our windows, scaring the cats and sometimes soaking our possessions inside. Kids hey. Saying that i'm heavily pregnant with my first, so i'm sure i'll get my own back 😂

@Oldestchild90s

Yeah both sides, on one side they are Eastern European so we don't communicate much but they are lovely and pleasant. They have a teen girl and a boy about 6 who clearly has special needs but i'm not sure they know what to do about it! He spends alot of time in the garden throwing a hammer at the fence, he goes to the toilet around the garden too (both types 👀) then at around 9:30pm he puts the garden hose on and sprays it at our windows, scaring the cats and sometimes soaking our possessions inside. Kids hey. Saying that i'm heavily pregnant with my first, so i'm sure i'll get my own back 😂

That sounds terrifying

@IndieRo

Yes, neighbours one door down let kids out at 7.30am,kids were never out before lockdown as they were in school, afterschool. They screech and fight and scream non stop. I've children myself and don't allow that behaviour. Children can have fun and play but screaming constantly with no parental supervision is just plain selfish.

Exactly, I was brought up in a big family and we were never allowed to make ridiculous noise. A normal level of kids playing - fine. But constant excessive is just ridiculous. I've actually been praying for rain most days!

@Oldestchild90s

Yeah both sides, on one side they are Eastern European so we don't communicate much but they are lovely and pleasant. They have a teen girl and a boy about 6 who clearly has special needs but i'm not sure they know what to do about it! He spends alot of time in the garden throwing a hammer at the fence, he goes to the toilet around the garden too (both types 👀) then at around 9:30pm he puts the garden hose on and sprays it at our windows, scaring the cats and sometimes soaking our possessions inside. Kids hey. Saying that i'm heavily pregnant with my first, so i'm sure i'll get my own back 😂

Agree - this is quite scary!

Why is it scary? Just knock on the door and tell them not to let him hose your windows.

Have you tried asking them to put the hammer and the hosepipe out of reach of their son. A chat with them might help, especially as you say they're pleasant people.

I understand your pain OP I have nightmare neighbours and I’ve been in tears on numerous occasions during lockdown from the noise. I eventually bought white noise machines to try and block out the sounds but it’s aggravated my tinnitus so I can’t use them long. Their dog is always barking, they are always slamming banging shouting etc the walls are very thin so you hear everything. I look forward to the days they go out (not often) just for the peace. There’s a special place in hell for shit neighbours

I have tried before, it's just so difficult as they don't understand anything. Maybe google translate could help a little ? 🤞🏻 the boy is annoying but i just felt a little bad as he has needs ☹️

So as yet you have not actually spoken to them to ask if they could keep the noise levels down or restricted to certain types of the day? How are they supposed to know it is bothering you, OP, if you don't actually tell them it is? In their minds they are coping with 6 kids on lockdown adequately. However, in the absence of a complaint they may not even realise there is an issue.

Bloody hell, I feel your pain. Our neighbours kids are ok, their are only two of them BUT they recently bought a basket ball net and that sodding noise all bloody day is driving me mad. Thud, thud, thud, there is nothing like it and I can hear it all over the house. There is no escape.

@Oldestchild90s

I have tried before, it's just so difficult as they don't understand anything. Maybe google translate could help a little ? 🤞🏻 the boy is annoying but i just felt a little bad as he has needs ☹️

Don't feel bad. The parents need to meet his needs, not you. That behaviour is not on and they need to address it.

I feel your pain. The kids aren’t doing anything wring but kids at play can make one heck of a noise! Have you tried noise cancelling headphones? I know this sounds daft by my hubby recently got a pair and I tried them on outside (no music) and it really cut out the Ned chavs noise from a few doors down. Maybe worth a try? Seriously!

@RedOasis

I feel your pain. The kids aren’t doing anything wring but kids at play can make one heck of a noise! Have you tried noise cancelling headphones? I know this sounds daft by my hubby recently got a pair and I tried them on outside (no music) and it really cut out the Ned chavs noise from a few doors down. Maybe worth a try? Seriously!

Screeching 10am to 10pm is wrong!

You don't say that you have actually explained to them about the difficulties and suffering you are experiencing regarding their kids behaviour. Why haven't you ? Go round and knock on their door every day - twice a day - whatever it takes. Contact your Council re. noise pollution. Record the noise. Keep a diary.

Apologies, I missed that I had asked them to keep it down, as has another neighbour. We were both just told 'they're only playing, what do you expect us to do?'

Another vote for noise-canceling headphones. We don't have screeching kids, but an enthusiastic Kercher user. The headphones really do make a difference.

Six year olds are not scary. Just ask them to stop him hosing you’re house. Act it out or show them the wet things. Is the hammer very loud? If not ignore if yes or causing damage show them. I would imagine the potty training problems are being addressed but not fixed yet. He’s little so perhaps just ignore?

Not kids making noise during the day, but older teenagers making noise til late at night. The neighbours on both sides have kids in their late teens/early 20s who still live at home. They like to get their mates round and talk/drink til gone midnight round the bloody fire pit. We can't leave the windows open due to the bloody smoke.

I think Lockdown has really affected the way some people feel about their neighbours. For every exhortation about how the community has come together, there are 10 more about how horrendous people find being so close to their neighbours. We’re in a detached house thank god but our neighbours are irritating - could be worse but the irritation is magnified whilst we’re all at home so much. Our neighbours are a family of six - 4 “kids” aged 17-23, each has their own crappy car plus one work van plus parents car. Constant shit DIY, barking dog etc etc. We can only hope that they’ll start to move out of home soon 🤞🏻However I know that it’s worse cos we’re all at home. I would love to move somewhere more remote now

@tiredanddangerous - I’d moved out of home at 23 so really our neighbours older kids will leave soon.

Our neighbours are a nightmare.
We have lived in this house for 11 years and have never heard a peep from any of our previous neighbours (about 4 sets, all with kids/babies)
This latest set are awful. They have 4 kids between 9-20) and it’s just a constant stream of bangin that goes through the whole house. Screaming and shouting and swearing and crying, dogs barking, parties in the garden, Car Reving for ages, hammering and drilling , just noise all the time.
Like I said we have never hear anything from previous neighbours bar the odd day of diying. You can even hear these neighbours when they just seem to be having a normal conversation in the garden and we are inside!