Anyone realise too late they wanted children or more children?

[fatterthaniiwas]

If so how did you make peace with your feelings?

I am very lucky to have a gorgeous dd aged 6. We found it hard going when she was a baby as had no support then I focussed on rebuilding my career then it all got a bit easier and I thought we could do it again now so we tried but I was already in my early 40s got pregnant almost immediately but miscarried

We have tried since but nothing and now I'm 43

I keep thinking about how things will be in the future .. my career seems very unimportant now. My little girl is growing up fast and I want to do it all again. I want a bigger family and I want her to have a sibling. Everything has been very exaggerated in lockdown and I feel that she is very lonely as dh and I are both working full time ( from home)

I can't help but think I wish I had tried harder earlier but I didn't and now it's too late

I am so so lucky and she is very happy I'm sure but she did say last week mummy please can you lay another egg so I have a child to play with. I said the child would not be able to play for a long time and she would have to share my attention but she said I don't mind...

Don't know why I'm posting really just looking for others who feel this way.. thought it would help me x

I don’t really have any advice, I would also have loved another baby but didn’t go about it on time either 😆 no it’s too late and I would have loved to experience it all again
But this time with experience

Would you consider another method of expanding your family

I have felt the same throughout lockdown, my DD is 4 and have felt very guilty for her being on her own even though she is fine!

I don't think it's too late for me but will probably need some assistance as it hasn't happend thusfar.

It's definitely exacerbated at the moment OP, is that the right word, I dunno. Just don't be too hard on yourself as we often are.

43 isn't really too late. Can you pay for private fertility tests? If you knew for sure you couldn't have more it would also help you to move on.

I had a MC at 43, tried for a few more years but now I'm 45 the urge went when I thought that we tried. It just wasnt meant to be

43 is at the late end of your fertility (unless you know you are going through an early menopause), but if you are still ovulating, then you have a chance. If you are particulary determined to catch the right egg - as many will be non viable - then you may be able to have another child, but don't waste any more time thinking about it! Good luck!

Thanks for responding

We will keep trying I think even though I'm not holding out much hope

I would love a dog too but dh says no..