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teenage son's girlfriend

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lisajlaps · 08/07/2020 17:58

Hello, I'm after some advice, my 14 year old son keeps asking me if he can go away with his girlfriend and her family for a couple of nights. He's told me they will be in separate rooms and her family are happy for him to come along. So far I've said no, am i being unreasonable ? My son keeps telling me his friends are allowed etc.. Any advice would be great.
Thanks

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BurtsBeesKnees · 08/07/2020 18:00

I'd speak to the parents of the gf. Make sure they are using separate rooms etc.

14 still feels quite young to be doing this tho

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lisajlaps · 08/07/2020 18:05

Yeah I mean I feel quite uncomfortable about it. I might speak to her parents and see what their plans are. But really my gut feeling is no. I'll just have to put up with an even grumpier teenager for a while.
thanks

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CoRhona · 08/07/2020 22:02

No way would I agree to this at 14.

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Spied · 08/07/2020 22:06

No way at that age.

The parents can't be very responsible telling him it's ok for him to come along without even asking you first.Hmm

Bit weird to me.

JingsMahBucket · 08/07/2020 22:23

@lisajlaps is there a particular reason why you feel uncomfortable? Being able to articulate it to yourself would help in explaining it to your son and even the girlfriend’s parents. If they understand your concerns maybe they can meet you in the middle.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 08/07/2020 22:26

Nope- can’t believe her parents are for this tbh

coffeewithmilk · 08/07/2020 22:33

No way would I agree with this. 14 is just too young. How do you know the GF's parents are going to be there constantly supervising.
That's a recipe for disaster.. it's a no from me

coffeewithmilk · 08/07/2020 22:33

No way would I agree with this. 14 is just too young. How do you know the GF's parents are going to be there constantly supervising.
That's a recipe for disaster.. it's a no from me

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lisajlaps · 08/07/2020 23:09

Thank you all so much for your comments, I thought absolutely not but when he said they are fine with it I then started questioning myself but thank you all for clarifying. It is to young isn’t it.

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yellowfishestoyou · 08/07/2020 23:10

I'd speak to her parents first and if I felt company with their response I'd let him.

yellowfishestoyou · 08/07/2020 23:10

Comfortable bloody predictive text!

ssd · 08/07/2020 23:15

Far too young.

FunTimes2020 · 08/07/2020 23:22

@Spied

No way at that age.

The parents can't be very responsible telling him it's ok for him to come along without even asking you first.Hmm

Bit weird to me.

Absolutely agree with this
BarbedBloom · 08/07/2020 23:41

At that age I was having sex with my boyfriend. I also went away with his family and it was easy to find opportunities while his family were getting the shopping and so on. If they are determined they will do it anyway, but I wouldn't make it easier for them at this age

alexdgr8 · 09/07/2020 00:03

no means no.
you don't have to justify your ruling to anyone.
you are the parent. hopefully his father agrees with you on this.
i wonder if the girl's parents have really agreed to it, and if they have, frankly it is not the kind of family i would want him around.
he is your son. he lives in your house. others' ways are irrelevant.
all power to your elbow.

HappyBumbleBee · 09/07/2020 00:21

Listen to and trust your own instinct @lisajlaps yes he may be grumpy for a while but he'll get over it and understand one day when he had teenager of his own x

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