Talk to me about having your (2nd, 3rd etc) baby at 40+

[AdultFishcakes]

Canvassing for opinion, as I’m shortly to turn 39 and DH are considering trying for another baby soon, that means that all going well I’d be 40 at delivery.

I’ve got three under six already and work a 4 day week, we have decent help and support as well but I just remember how shattered I was when preggers with #3.

Tell me your stories. X

Hi there. I'm nearly 42 and ttc. I had my first at 34 and afew miscarriages since then.
I'm now in my 6th month of trying and it is worrying me abit now. I seem to get pregnant easily but it doesn't stick and i think that is because of my eggs. We just need to catch a good one lol.
I believe 40 and younger it is easier xx

I had a stillbirth at 39 but went on to have our glorious DC3 when I was 42.
So pregnancy/delivery was no different for me at 42 than it was with DC1 when I was 29. Smooth as glass. DC3 was a sleep bandit however and that was tough, to say the least. The lack of sleep is a killer, regardless of our age.
I've always found the baby stage incredibly hard but that's because I breed high-needs non-sleepers who then turn into the loveliest children, as all kids do. There's always a silver lining.
I didn't feel older with DC3 at all. Fast forward to me now at 48 and I now DO feel older. 48 is not 38. It's not even 42. The aging process accelerates in our 40s in a way it really doesn't in our 30s. I am healthier and more active now than I was ten years ago. But my energy levels are different. I don't feel nearly as energetic as I did at 38. So just keep in mind that it may be a bit different having a 6 year old at 46/47 than it is now at 39. Also, by that stage you will have a 12 year old in year 8 and that's a different scene than where you're at now. You're still in the wonderful world of cBeebies.
Life gets broader as the kids get older, as we get older, and as our own parents get older. That comes into play a lot in the 40s. We get more tired. Our bodies are beginning to prepare for menopause. This is the honest truth. But it's nothing to fear and it's certainly not a reason to halt ttc. The love and the utter joy of family does see us through. So as long as you know that it is a bit different having a baby/toddler in your 40s and as long as you look after yourself and learn to cope with life's changes, you'll be ok. You have a loving, supportive DH who is on board with ttc, so that's great. You're in it together. The nice thing is that it's just so normal to have babies between 39-early 40s now. Best of luck to you!

34TheVanguardSix thank you for your reply and I'm very sorry to hear about your stillbirth i can't inagine how hard that was for you. I'm so glad yoi wrnt on to concieve again..did you do anything in particular to concieve again? I'm now 4 days late and nothing still. It has only been 6 months of tryi ng but still i worry lol. Xx

@TheVanguardSix thank you for posting. I’m very sorry to hear you had a stillbirth and I’m sending you some very unmimsnetty hugs.

Also appreciate the reality that our bodies do seem to age in an accelerated fashion in our 40s x