Miscarriages . A little Gorey to read x

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Hello Mumsnet wondered if you had any helpful advice on miscarriages I am on my 3rd miscarriage which is quite depressing but what can you do even though I have been taking vitamins and all the right things I just seem to have not the best luck but I guess I'm Not Giving Up Yet waiting to go to a clinic for more tests but I did have my first daughter through IVF so I've always known I've had not the best fertility but I guess where there's hope you don't want to give up. I just wondered my last miscarriage was quite bad it was my 3-month scan when I found out the baby had stopped developing at 8-weeks I wasn't expecting the miscarriage to be so bad as the last two I had one more manageable and not so gory. I taking the tablets vaginally in the late afternoon and nothing much seemed to be happening apart from a bit of blood which seem to manageable so I went to bed around 11pm. When I wake up in the morning early with Olivia my daughter who is 3 re I went to the toilet and felt like a big mass fill out of the toilet which is gross I know and still then I don't remember the blood been that bad but I wonder how long they had been up there and if I should have broke up through the night too to see if it needed to come out earlier as I just wondered I know it sounds paranoid but I've already got one but you blocked and then worried about the miscarriage blocking another Tube and then in the evening the blood became really bad and it was literally pouring out so fast that I collapsed twice and lost consciousness and I had to go to A&E which I was ok after being medically ceiling help remove some of the leftover miscarriage when the bleeding seem to stop after that so bad but it was pouring out so fast I keep wondering if it could have damaged my uterus or tube in anyway as haven't not much luck the last 3 months of getting pregnant even though I know it takes longer I'm 12 anyway can't help but think the worst after having not the best of luck. Wondered if anyone else has had a similar experience? With a positive result at the end.

Sorry I didn't mean I am 12 that was a typing error I'm actually in my mid-30s I meant I know my fertility is never been that great anyway sorry sometimes make mistakes with typing without reading checking first!

I'm really sorry to hear about your experience. I've only had one miscarriage (and it was just one of those random things which I don't think have an obvious explanation), so I know that's different. In terms of your experience of it, would you consider having surgical management in the future? I've only had the one, but I was in a similar position, missed mc around 7 ish weeks but nothing happened on its on by 12 weeks. I asked the midwife in the EPU what she would do in my situation and she said that after supporting women through medical management, she wouldn't choose it herself. She said it can be really painful and sometimes you do lose quite a lot of blood. I opted for surgical management and it was all very straightforward, not traumatic at all in a physical sense (and I would think probably easier emotionally too because I was not awake for it). It didn't affect my fertility. I was 37. I got pregnant the next month and had a healthy, straightforward pregnancy. I'm sorry you're going through this and hopefully you won't have to go through it again, but it may be something to consider if it would make it easier. I'm not planning to have more dc but if I ever had to be in that situation again, it's definitely what I would choose.

Are you worried that something could have been left behind or that something tore? I was advised to return for a check up to ensure that all of the pregnancy had come out. Maybe you should check with your doctor?

Ps, tons of blood loss can be normal too. A friend of mine described her bleeding during miscarriage as like that scene from the hall in The Shining. She wore adult nappies to manage it. It can be really gruesome without being a health concern, if you see what I mean.