Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Grief counselling, what does it entail?

1 reply

RedElephants · 08/07/2020 10:23

*Hi,
I lost my Dad 6 weeks and 5 days ago,

He had been unwell for a while and it was expected.
My sister and I had been taking it in turns to stay at the house with my Mum, as she felt she wasn't coping very well (she's 76 and has done really well to my mind)

It was my turn to be there the night he died.
I was sleeping in the lounge when Mum came in and said she couldn't hear him breathing, to I went in to his room and tried to find a pulse, but he'd gone.

In the weeks that followed I think I did ok, but these 2 weeks after the funeral, I keep welling up and crying, I just feel, unhappy.

I am wondering if i haven't given myself enough time to grieve properly, as I went back to work last Monday, (I work in early years, after being being off for 3 months) so a week after the funeral.
Going back also means that I can't be in my mums house supporting her, as I was doing, I'm back to sitting in the garden if the weathers fine, I'm finding it hard.

Yesterday I was sitting in the staff room having a quick coffee, before joining the class I'm in at the moment, when a colleague came in and asked if I was ok, I just started crying, then the head came in, and said if I needed to go that was fine, so I came home.
To day school is closed for a deep clean.

So my class teacher suggested bereavement counselling, our school subscribes to SAS, and I have some one calling me in the next couple of days.
I really was just wondering how that worked, it'll obviously be by phone or zoom or similar, and what happens in a counselling session.*
*
I've also posted in bereavement, posted here for traffic
Please be gentle.*

OP posts:
MajesticWol · 08/07/2020 10:35

I’m really sorry about the loss of your dad. Expected or not, it’s devastating - especially in those circumstances.

Grief counselling will encourage you to talk about your dad, all your thoughts and feelings around losing him and your relationship with him. In many ways we are defined by our relationships, so losing a loved one means losing part of ourselves as well.

You won’t be forced to say anything you don’t want to - you can sit and cry without saying anything if you need to.

The feelings you are having are a normal part of the grieving process. In-session, you might cry, or get angry, or even laugh. It’s all okay.

You might find this useful: www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/mental-health-nerd/201911/the-4-tasks-grieving

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

This thread is closed and is no longer accepting replies. Click here to start a new thread.