What have your 'friends' stolen off you?

[Pickles89]

Inspired by another thread. I'm thinking most of us have been burned one time or another! I no longer lend my friends things (to be fair nobody has asked since adulthood!) but as a teen I had one friend borrow a bunch of books, only to return about a third of them (she came from a kleptomanic family - her mum stole from my mum, her brother from my brother - it would have been funny if not so disturbing!) and another kept hold of my DVD of 'The Wedding Planner' despite my repeatedly asking for it back.

What about you guys?

My friend when I was about 15 came over when I was visiting my dads house, my Wham tape went missing- I knew she had it, I feigned looking for it and said we're not going out til I find it. I nipped our to the kitchen after 10
Mina I'd aearching to give her time to 'put' it somewhere when I came back into my bedroom she produced it saying oh it fell behind your bed ... I'd looked there already 🤔
She's still a friend on Facebook, we all do stupid things as kids and in the heat of the moment, but I've never forgotten!

My next door neighbour friend stole £20, from my money box and bought my mum a pack of cigarettes with the money (back in the 80s when parents could send their children to the shops for such things).

Not quite the same but I once lived in a hostel and a few residents forced their way into my room and 'borrowed' some CDs that I had borrowed from a friend in there.

They returned them, but had destroyed the disks by gouging big scratches into them. My friend was furious with me and quite rightly so as from her perspective I had wontonly destroyed her property. She didn't believe my story as it sounded ridiculous. But the people in there were awful and I once woke up to a drunken guest of a resident across the hallway from me sat on the end of my bed watching me sleep. I was 16 years old. He had to be told 3 times to leave.

Friends or not. People are just wankers sometimes.

Not quite the same but I once lived in a hostel and a few residents forced their way into my room and 'borrowed' some CDs that I had borrowed from a friend in there.

They returned them, but had destroyed the disks by gouging big scratches into them. My friend was furious with me and quite rightly so as from her perspective I had wontonly destroyed her property. She didn't believe my story as it sounded ridiculous. But the people in there were awful and I once woke up to a drunken guest of a resident across the hallway from me sat on the end of my bed watching me sleep. I was 16 years old. He had to be told 3 times to leave.

Friends or not. People are just wankers sometimes.

Not me but “friend” of my daughter took daughter’s birthday money out of her money box and said it was hers.... It was returned after lots of lies from her but I wasn’t letting this one go I knew she’d done it, little cow.

My friend stole a ballgown from me. I don't typically go around wearing ballgowns (but it was for a particular event), so I only had one. I lent it to her and it never came back because we drifted apart. Then I spent the next 2 years on social media seeing her pop up at various events in my dress!

A friend of mine borrowed a Jason Donovan Vinyl. Then I was mad, now I should thank them. 😝

My best friend stole my dignity. I punched her, hard, and broke her nose!

First period, school nurse lent me the necessaries and there was no spillage or anything. As we queued up for first class after lunch m best friend told everyone I had no idea what a period was, I was not a real woman, I was a child and the school nurse had had to hold me as I cried a lot when I saw the blood, that I had thought I had cut myself, et, etc.

I was sporty, did weight training as part of my training. I really hurt her!

School reaction was 50:50 on who was most to blame. I got a 2 day suspension and she got sent on the bullying course. Which was odd as the gang of girls who bullied me ceaselessly for 3 years never went to that course!

I haven't thought of her in years, when I was 14ish (early 00's) a girl stole £25 from my room, it was money i'd been saving for weeks so I could go to camp. I was very angry at the time but looking back and seeing her situation as an adult I feel really sorry for the girl as she was quite clearly neglected.

Her DM would make her leave the house very early in the morning and she wouldn't be allowed home until late at night, no matter what the weather. Our group was a large gang of girls from the estate, different bubbles of friends but we'd all hangout in the same place iyswim, she'd work her way round the bubbles making one of us her BFF then practically move in with the family, she'd stay overnight as often as possible, she'd even have all her meals with them, because if she hadn't stayed overnight she'd be calling at the door at 8.00am.

She would then steal from the family there'd be a big fall out and she'd move on to another girl in the group. She stole the money from me, attempted to steal a mobile from another girl and I vaguely remember her stealing underpants from someone else, I only remember her being about for a few months and I think she vanished as quickly as she appeared, once she'd work her way though us, she didn't go to our school and lived a bus ride away.

I've texted my mum and she has said the girl was very manipulative but clearly needed help that is why she welcomed her into our house, but once the stealing started my mum couldn't trust her and told her she wasn't to be calling back to the door.

@CuriousaboutSamphire

My best friend stole my dignity. I punched her, hard, and broke her nose!

First period, school nurse lent me the necessaries and there was no spillage or anything. As we queued up for first class after lunch m best friend told everyone I had no idea what a period was, I was not a real woman, I was a child and the school nurse had had to hold me as I cried a lot when I saw the blood, that I had thought I had cut myself, et, etc.

I was sporty, did weight training as part of my training. I really hurt her!

School reaction was 50:50 on who was most to blame. I got a 2 day suspension and she got sent on the bullying course. Which was odd as the gang of girls who bullied me ceaselessly for 3 years never went to that course!

WTF. Yes she was horrid -but to punch her and break her nose. Lovely -not. FFS I'm glad I wasn't at school with either of you, I wouldn't have wanted either of you near me.

My best friend stole £20 from me in 1991. I had my first job and took some money out of the bank and whilst at her house it went missing. She denied it of course! I used to put change on a shelf in my room. Usually 50ps the off pound coin 20p etc and my brother used to steal it from me. My mum used to tell him off and give it back to me!

One of my very good friend (been friends for about 25 years) used to be a bit of a kleptomaniac when we were younger. We caught her out a few times but never actually confronted her about it. Think we all just felt a bit sorry for her really. She would steal silly things like make up, make up brushes, key rings etc, but one time we are pretty sure she stole a friend's purse that had £70 in it. We can't be absolutely sure of that because there were other people in the house (my parents were away and I was having a "party") but about 6 weeks later I found the purse in little bathroom cabinet that we never used, no money in it.

@ SummerDayWinterEvenings I think they were kids.
I’m sure the poster doesn’t go round punching people on the nose now.

I did have one friend and her older sister (again still friends) that would constantly ask to "borrow" clothes, make up, bags, even hair extensions once and never give them back. The were the richest out of all of us and weren't deprived of anything. Their dad ran 2 businesses and they are still wealthy. I think that annoyed me more than the friend that stole silly little things.

Not stolen from me but I was once accused so I thought I'd share to lighten the mood because I still find it hilarious and bizarre!

I had a friend and me and our other friends were staying at her house years ago when we were about 18 while he parents were away. I'd had a shower that morning before college. Everything was fine. I later found out that she'd accused me behind my back to others for stealing some soap from Lush 😂🙈

Firstly - as far as I know - she meant an actual bar of soap. I haven't used bars of soap since a child and secondly, apart from their bath bombs, I don't use any of their other products!

If I was a tea leaf, wouldn't I have stole something else of value from the house?

I still find it funny that she never accused me to my face. Needless to say we don't speak anymore and neither do any of the other people who were friends with her - she was one of those who liked to know the ins and outs of your life so she could compare how great hers was.

Moral of the story, no matter how bad you're feeling, never get yourself into a situation where you're accused of stealing soap!

There have been more than a few things I could write about...

One in particular was at uni - went shopping with flatmate, bought a very distinctive tshirt, put it in a drawer and went to get it a few days later - not there. Was a bit upset but assumed I'd put it somewhere else and forgotten about it. It was just a top and wasn't expensive so I got over it and assumed it would turn up eventually.

Some weeks later, I was looking for something in one of my flatmate's drawers in her room (she was out and had asked me to bring her a change of clothes so we could go out after her lecture) and found the tshirt folded up inside another top - still with the tag on, and definitely mine as it was in the sale so had a distinctive hand-written markdown. I was a bit stunned - hadn't crossed my mind that she would do that at all. She'd actually said she wasn't keen on it in the shop when I bought it!

I never said anything and neither did she (assuming she noticed it was no longer there, and that she realised what had happened!) but that opened my eyes a lot and I started noticing a few small things that I'd previously let slide, like using up food/drink I'd bought (not for communal use), or borrowing makeup/stationery/CDs and not returning them. I never called her out on it because I was scared of losing a friend/flatmate and didn't like confrontation, but was not terribly surprised when, after we moved out at the end of uni, she didn't pay her fairly sizable share of a bill which I had to cover, and totally blanked me on all calls/emails.

I was (and still am) actually more upset about the loss of what I had thought was a good friendship than the money/items. It was obviously quite one-sided! I just view it now as the literal price of having had some really good times with her (Rent-A-Friend, anyone?!) and try to not get upset about my naivety.

My friend, no acutally my best friend of over 10 years stole my fiance, it was a long time ago now, but I often wonder what if lol

When I was about 8 I had a friend round to play. My new watch my Nana had bought me for my birthday vanished from the fireplace.
It could only have been her.

I was devastated, not so much for the watch but for the loss of my faith in people really. My first lesson into people are arseholes.

Many many years on and it still smarts and I could never look at her in the same way again.

A future where I would have felt more like I belonged.

DVDs, cash, a party dress, my boyfriend

Went back to a friends house one night after a party and stayed the night. Being drunk I left my handbag in the kitchen over night. On the way home next day I discovered that my ipod was missing, just presumed I lost it.
Few days later I was back over at said friends house and her sister walked in with an ipod identical to mine , with the same big dent on the bottom from where I had dropped it. I casually asked her where she got it and she said her brother had bought it second hand. Obviously knew it was mine and after I left the house that day , I never spoke to that girl again. They had plenty bloody money and I was a young carer for a family member and had worked very hard to afford that ipod.

Pre wedding 5 years ago I bought 2 wedding dresses. Fell out not long after the wedding and ex bff still has the other dress!!
Maybe will stand as a reminder that until she tells her exh he can no longer control her life she won't have cause to need such a dress..

only once as a teenager, My belived Backstreet Boys Tape! Stole it whilst I slept!!!
I found it and hid it under the innersole of my trainer , she attempted to re-steal it though as rummaged my bag, she didnt find it.
I told my mother and the girl was punished by her parents, all very dramatic when you're 12 hahaha!
I dont tend to lend anything to anyone or borrow something either

A bloody Mulberry handbag!! A friend f
came to stay, the strap on her bag snapped so I lent her one of mine, and she took it home with her. She used to come and stay quite regularly as she had other friends living near me and we were close mates so I thought nothing of it. However every time I saw her after that she 'forgot' to bring it despite me asking (she lived 200 miles away so I couldn't pop round to pick it up). We then had a bit of a falling out over something totally unrelated and I haven't seen her or the bag since!

• beloved , not belived!