Are you popular?

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If yes, have you always been popular?

Are you introverted or extroverted?

Do you have good self esteem?

Are you easy going?

Do you gossip lots?

I don't think I am generally popular but I have felt more positive vibes from people when I was in settings where I was good at something and so had some sort of social 'respect'.

In a mums and kids setting e.g. school, kids' clubs I feel it's either genuinely friendly, easy going women who are well liked or those who are very extroverted, a bit showy, love to gossip and are a bit divaish.

My dds have friends but are not at the centre of attention and are certainly not the popular girls.

What's your theory on who's popular?

I quit like to skirt on the outside of the social scene. I am probably quite boring.

I make friends very easy and count myself as being popular.

My top tip, always ask questions about their life, even if you don’t care. I honestly don’t care about most of my friends private lives and internally roll my eyes at some of the boring stories, BUT it makes them like you and remember you as friendly.

I’m very outgoing/extrovert, and would be described as witty/funny.
I am also fiercely loyal and will do anything for my friends.

I am also extremely stubborn, opinionated and have a bit of a temper but I own it and admit my faults which somehow makes them ok.
I do gossip, and can be a bit judgemental, but I also apologise if I am in the wrong.

I’ve actually got quite low self esteem personally but I act big and confident and people would describe me as confident.
I do have a few issues with specific parts of my body but I front it out and no one would know that I have insecurities.
I am slim/toned, tall, blonde and I smile/laugh a lot which are all attractive qualities.

I feel like I’m boasting a bit but I’m just stating facts. The sad thing is I have so many friends yet am single and desperately lonely. I get so many comments about how I’m ‘the perfect woman’ ‘how are you still single’ etc and yet I am still single.

Having all the friends in the world doesn’t really compare with having the love of your life.

Not really. But it's not something I aspire to either. I have a few close friends and find large groups and small talk difficult which people probably pick up on. I find people exhausting so I'd say I'm an introvert which for me means I filter people out pretty quickly. I find it very difficult to put on a front , although I dont mean I am openly eye rolling at people. I fake it very well for work and when I need too! But I cant keep it up for long periods if time , whereas popular people do it more often.

I have found people who are popular are much better at hiding their feelings about people. They will be nice to everyone they come into contact with regardless of what they really feel about them. It's a good way to be in terms of popularity, but I have learnt to be wary of people like this as I cant read them. I am never sure if they really like me or if its superficial.

No I dont gossip. I did when I was young but I cant be bothered with all that now.

No and I never have been. I was modelling from the age of 15, this caused trouble for me among girls at school and I had comments behind my back and was isolated. I also had some things happen in my childhood that left me with anxiety and low self esteem, so I never go out my way make friends with people. People say they I'm totally different to what they imagined once they get to know me though and that I'm kind and funny, but no one would know that as I don't express myself until I feel comfortable.

No. I have no friends.
I’m likeable though, I think. I’m often told people comment on me being “lovely” and “sweet”.
In work I’m told I’m fair, calming, soothing and a good listener (all important in my job).
People have approached me years after I’ve known them and said they were always “in awe of me” or “fascinated by me” (no idea why and no one has ever articulated why!)
I make small talk, and think I get on with people, but it’s over 20 years since that’s translated to an actual friendship where you swap phone numbers or meet up (even once!)
I guess my likability is just from a distance/ in passing and I’m not someone people want to get to know properly/ spend time with. That makes me a bit sad, and I wish I knew why so I could try to do something about it.

I get on fine with most people, reasonably confident, good public speaker but I'm happily intoverted. I have three good friends that I make an effort to see and friendly acquaintances at work and elsewhere that I have things in common with and we chat comfortably when I see them.

I'm usually the last to hear gossip as I'm rarely interested.

So based on what I think most people mean by popular, I'm not, but it's not bothering me. That doesn't mean there's no downsides, in particular, it's easy to be overlooked at work.