Waiting to move out / feel fed up living at home

[bingsulaflop]

Hello,

I have posted regarding this before about moving out, me my partner and our DS (coming up 2) are currently living with my parents in an attempt to save a house deposit however living here has become unbearable to the point it's set off my MH massively and I'm starting to get fed up waiting for anything to come on the market to rent, even then the viewings, rental checks etc take so long to do.

The problem is living here has now become so un bareable and I get upset constantly with how unhappy I am (diagnosed with depression), we can't even go to the shop without a barrage of questions about what we are going for, why we need to go out etc.

We have a viewing later this afternoon and said if she could watch our DS and made up an excuse of going for things for the weekend, she asked why we needed to go out when we went out on Friday (we didn't "go out", we sat in A&E for three hours with our DS as he's broken his collarbone) - that's how ridiculous she can be, just pointless and meaningless things..

Although I'm very great full for the opportunity, living this way is not for me I'm not a child anymore and my mam has crossed the line one too many times that I think it best we move before I consider going NC with her (she gaslights constantly, tries to take over parenting DS, starts arguments over the most pointless and unnecessary things etc)

My question is, how do I get through this until we find somewhere suitable for us to rent?
I'm still yet to say we are moving out but didn't want to say anything until we have somewhere for definite.

Sorry for all the typos

Can you not take DS with you to the viewing? Or is this because of the pandemic and the way viewings are happening?

Have you thought about Shared Ownership schemes to help you buy? Agree you should rent and leave now though. But that might get you on the ladder later?

You have to get out. I'd bring ds viewing.

@Whatwouldyoud1

@sitckmansladylove

Thank you for your replies, with covid we can only have two of us go to the viewing but it's a bit tricky getting him into the car as he has a cast on his arm and has broken collarbone so getting him into the car seat has been really difficult.

We are going to walk to as many of the viewings as we can that way he can comfortably sit in the pram

Let us know how you get on
Hopefully it will be suitable for you. Our families don't always have our best interests at heart. Take it from me.

Good luck, OP. Lots of agents are doing online viewings now too - so if only one of you goes, the other can do the online viewing and you can chat etc.

I hope you find somewhere soon!

And do check out Shared Ownership when you do buy. I’m not sure what kind of deposit you need (if at all?) but I know lots of friends who used that scheme to get on the ladder. They wouldn’t have been able to at all without it.

How did the viewing go @bingsulaflop?

@Happynow001 not great but we have another lined up and keeping positive!