I'm too old to have any more kids and I'm sad

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Sorry self indulgent post

Im blessed to have an amazing dc who is my world. We had her late and have been trying for a sibling for a while. We decided we wouldn't do any ivf etc and would just let nature decide. After many years of trying fell pregnant last year but it was an ectopic and had tube removal under surgery

I'm now 43.. we've been trying naturally for a while but I know deep down it won't happen.. I'm too old and I need to make peace with this and be so grateful for what I do have

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Sorry cut off!

I'm truly grateful for what I do have and will focus on this but just wanted to spend a moment feeling a bit sad and closing the door on that chapter of my life and the hope I had clung to about having another

It is okay to feel how you do. I can hold the space whilst you take a moment or two to breathe.

You are allowed to feel those things. You can be simultaneously grateful for the child you have and mourn the child you didn't have or won't have. Be kind to yourself. I'm sorry it hasn't happened.

I'm really sorry about your ectopic pregnancy - such a horrible thing to go through, especially when you're that bit older and feel like it was your last chance. I had an ectopic when I was 43 and that's how I felt. I also had a tube removed. However, I managed to get pregnant again about a year and a half later and had DS2 at 45. It can happen, so maybe it's ok to hope - while continuing to enjoy and appreciate what you have.

@AhBallix wow that's amazing!

Gives me some hope but I do need to be realistic thanks for sharing

I'm sorry you may not get the family you expected,
but having one is brilliant. Lots of people will also say that about having more than one, but for me, one has been perfect. I am able to be the parent I wanted to be because I don't have to divide my time, money or energy.

I'm 42 and pregnant after 6 miscarriages. So it is possible. But there are also lots of positive at having one

I’m in what we’ve decided will be our final cycle of TTC number 3. I’m 40 and had a MMC with twins in April. I’m also coming to terms with the fact that there won’t be any more babies. Like you, I’m so grateful for what I have but also very sad and can’t help thinking about what life would be like had I not lost those babies.

For me, I think I will feel better when we stop actually trying. Hope is an absolute killer!

Be kind to yourself.

Agree @Chickoletta

It's the constant waiting and hoping that's so hard

Time to try and move on and look forward to other things