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Has school completely changed your DCs personality?

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CherryTreesandSeaswimming · 06/07/2020 18:51

DD is 5 almost 6 in year 1.

Before starting school she attended a private nursery 3-4 days a week. She was placid, loving and cheeky. She loved water, first things she’d want when we came through the door was a bath then a cuddle in a snuggly towel.

Since starting school she basically just grunts at me, she refuses to bath and when she does she just screams through it. She cries a lot. This was before the lockdown as well so not related to that. I can’t get her to talk to me, she won’t play with her toys or even look at me sometimes.

It really upsets me. I lose her for half the weekends as she goes to her dads so I try and make the most of my time with her. By Sunday I start to see my old little girl again but then Monday she’s back to rude and grumpy.

I don’t think schools the problem; both her reception and year 1 teachers have said she has no behavioural issues, she’s a bit behind where she should be but is enthusiastic about school but she avoids getting her hands dirty. She has friends from what I can tell, plenty of party invites and during the lockdown two of the girls sent her a special video message.

She’s in a smaller class at school than she was in Nursery with a similar number of adults (1 teacher, 1 TA and a 1-1 TA who works with small groups) despite school being 2 form entry so therefore bigger.

I don’t know whether it’s just me. I miss my little girl as she was.

Anyone else’s child the same?

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Berryofstraw · 06/07/2020 20:03

She is probably just completely exhausted. My DS spends evenings exhausted, moody, crying and everything is a battle.
I'm also a year 1 teacher. You would be surprised how much work is expected from children at that age and they have to hold it together all day, they must be so exhausted by the time they get home.

CherryTreesandSeaswimming · 06/07/2020 21:04

@Berryofstraw

She is probably just completely exhausted. My DS spends evenings exhausted, moody, crying and everything is a battle. I'm also a year 1 teacher. You would be surprised how much work is expected from children at that age and they have to hold it together all day, they must be so exhausted by the time they get home.
Thank you that's reassuring that it's normal, and for the perspective of both a parent and a teacher.
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mindutopia · 06/07/2020 21:10

I don’t think it’s school. I think it’s the age. 6-7 is a really tough age in my experience. Mine is certainly much worse not being in school! But it’s because she’s 7.

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BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 06/07/2020 21:16

Oh yes. School does change them. It felt like I had a different child with dc1 until around mid y1. It was similar with dc 2 & then 3 too. It's been similar with dc4 (reception) as well but then schools closed & after 4 weeks he was actually worse. He's been back since 8/6 & is actually a much nicer child again now so I think he may be coming out of it 'early' thanks to lockdown.

Most other parents said the same as well when I talked to them about it.

CherryTreesandSeaswimming · 06/07/2020 21:19

@BernardsarenotalwaysSaints

Oh yes. School does change them. It felt like I had a different child with dc1 until around mid y1. It was similar with dc 2 & then 3 too. It's been similar with dc4 (reception) as well but then schools closed & after 4 weeks he was actually worse. He's been back since 8/6 & is actually a much nicer child again now so I think he may be coming out of it 'early' thanks to lockdown.

Most other parents said the same as well when I talked to them about it.

Thank you thats reassuring. DD was the same for the first few weeks of lockdown; attitude, moody etc but then she was back to her normal self for awhile then she went depressed and missed school. Went back on 2/6 but she’s back to her grumpy stroppy self hoping it passes soon
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CherryTreesandSeaswimming · 06/07/2020 21:23

@mindutopia

I don’t think it’s school. I think it’s the age. 6-7 is a really tough age in my experience. Mine is certainly much worse not being in school! But it’s because she’s 7.
Thank you, these responses are reassuring, I’m sure it’s not the schools fault as such either. Must just be the age, don’t suppose the lockdown has actually helped.
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