"you ruin everything"

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My DNiece said to me the other day, after we went to the park, that "you ruin everything aunty. I always look forward to things with you and they get ruined."

This was after I told her off for being silly near the pond.

Now she tells me she was just joking???

Was she??

I still remember when Mil and I took DN (Bil’s son) out when he was 6 and he began kicking old ladies. He got mil and another woman before I managed to restrain him and then picked him up. Then half way he bit me so hard I bled and I lost my temper and gave him a slap; he then said I was horrible and evil and I should die.

Told his mum about his behaviour when we returned and that I slapped him as he was out of control and she admitted he behaves like this a lot. Mil said she was thankful I was there otherwise he probably would have run off.

I have never taken him out again.

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I still remember when Mil and I took DN (Bil’s son) out when he was 6 and he began kicking old ladies. He got mil and another woman before I managed to restrain him and then picked him up. Then half way he bit me so hard I bled and I lost my temper and gave him a slap; he then said I was horrible and evil and I should die.

Told his mum about his behaviour when we returned and that I slapped him as he was out of control and she admitted he behaves like this a lot. Mil said she was thankful I was there otherwise he probably would have run off.

I have never taken him out again.

Good!! Smacking small children because you can’t control your own temper is not great.

I have never taken him out again.

Sounds like that was best for the child.

IDK, op, my five year old variously tells me I am the best mummy in the whole world and very good fun, and the worst person alive and someone who makes him sad all the time. I don't take either as gospel- you can mean something in the moment that contradicts your overall feelings about a person. I love my mum and feel glad she is my mum, but there are times I genuinely want to scream at her to feck off because she is driving me mad. Children are just as capable as adults of having moments of real irritation with someone they generally like very much, I wouldn't assume this means she has an overall negative view of me.

I have never taken him out again.

you wouldnt be taking mine out again either. the child sounds like he has serious behavioural issues that need to be addressed by his parents, however you slapped a 6 year old. One that isnt even blood related to you (not that this makes it any better).