Struggling with parents attitude now they’re out of isolating.

[Icantrememebrtheartist]

Both my parents are in their 70”S. They isolated for nearly four months. I have been getting all their shopping etc but now they’ve decided they want/need their freedom back and want to be able to go to the shops themselves etc. All fine, I understand.

But! Yesterday I popped in to the supermarket with my mum and she wouldn’t follow the arrows, cut in front of people and got angry when I pulled her up on it. I apologised more than once for her. Her attitude is one of “oh for fucks sake I only need to get there or get that”. Her attitude is one of all this is so bloody annoying. I now don’t want to go out with her again.

This isn’t a thread for you to all tell me how awful that is. I’m just wondering if anyone else is experiencing this with their “adult” parents.

She's not had the last three months shopping experience that you've had. She is still shopping the way that was normal in February. We didn't get to where we are now overnight, she will need some time to adjust.

Let her go on her own, you aren't responsible for her and don't need to apologise for her. She'll adjust or she won't.

Mine is older than yours and has not yet learned to recognise a new look queue, she would be totally oblivious to floor markings because it's not something that she's come across in the last four months.

She hasn't been in a shop for months. Of course she is going to. Be a bit confused , you didn't need to apologise for her.no wonder she was annoyed go shopping with her but let her get on with it.

She is able to shop alone - let her get on with it. Stop tagging along and stop apologising for her - she'll learn soon enough.

Why are you shopping with her? Does she need you there?

I think you need to have a calm chat with her before you go out again and try to get her to see it from other people's perspective. Her behaving like this will make other people feel very uncomfortable.
But be a little patient, she's been out of the loop for a while.

Yes just say mum we all need to follow the arrows/directions in the shops. Now we can't be cutting in and out.