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Worried about DD

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CherryColouredTwist · 05/07/2020 08:27

I wasn’t sure where else to post this. I guess I chose Chat for traffic but if it belongs anywhere else please point me in the right direction... I’ve NC.

DD7 has started what I think, after some research and talking to others with experience, is stimming. Since she was 4 she has gone through phases of clearing her throat repeatedly, once she starts she finds it difficult to stop and now she has started repeatedly flexing the muscles in her stomach for periods of time, giving a kind of violent hiccup effect. I’ve asked her why she thinks she does it and she says she doesn’t know, just feels like she needs to but isn’t in pain and I’ve left it like that and haven’t tried to stop her.

I understand this is a behaviour many people with ASD adopt but as far as we are aware she is NT with no obvious learning difficulty. She is thriving at school (when that was a thing) and has struggled with lockdown, not going to school and home learning. She’s found the whole experience very stressful as things have changed for us as a family hugely since March, with changes in working hours, childcare etc. I’ve done my best to make things as normal as possible and reassure her but I’m terrified this is stimming related to anxiety and poor MH. Of course, I’m beating myself up about how much better we could’ve handled everything already!

I guess my questions are:

  1. To anybody with experience, does This sound like stimming.
  2. is it something to do with anxiety. The timing is quite the coincidence. She has a younger sister (2) who has been particularly toddler-ish lately and has needed a lot of attention. (Again, putting this down to a symptom of the times!)
  3. What can I do to help her? Is it worth calling the GP for a chat, or the her school?

Many thanks in advance for any words of wisdom. She’s always been such a strong, confident character to the point of having to rein her in at times, I never thought I’d be fretting over her mental heath. It feels wretched.

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Ohsuchaperfectday · 05/07/2020 10:00

Hi OP

I wouldnt worry too much - which is easier said than done! My dds have both gone through periods of this - in fact as a child I started to make a funny beeping noise and I could not stop!

I would say they are more ticks than stimming? I wouldn't draw attention to it - and try and draw her subtly away from doing it with some sort of distraction...def raise with doc but by phone without her there....

SnuggyBuggy · 05/07/2020 10:04

Could it be habitual throat clearing rather than stimming?

Bearnecessity · 05/07/2020 10:09

Agree with Ohsuch....if possible get her a dog if you haven't got one already. I believe they offer children all kinds of support in very subtle ways that don't need verbalising necessarily.

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CherryColouredTwist · 05/07/2020 10:26

Could be @SnuggyBuggy, I really don’t know. I guess I’m being really careful not to go in like a bull in a china shop and tell her to break the habit without being sure that she can.

Thanks everyone. You’ve been reassuring. I’ll think I’ll have a chat to school tomorrow. She goes in one day a week (keyworker kid) so I’ll ask them if they notice anything after her day and if they suggest anything. Failing that if she’s still doing it throughout next week, I’ll chat to the GP.

@Bearnecessity we actually do have a dog and they go through phases of loving eachother more than anything and being fairly indifferent to eachother - they truly are siblings across species! We’ve also just decided to take on a cat who arrives in a couple of weeks, which she’s excited about so maybe that’ll be a nice pick me up for her.

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